Women In Their 30s And 40s Are Hornier And Bonk MoreExcerpts from :
The Science of Cougar Sex: Why Older Women Lust By John Cloud Friday, Jul. 09, 2010
“...University of Texas psychologist David Buss wrote the article, which appears in the July issue of Personality and Individual Differences, with the help of three graduate students, Judith Easton (who is listed as lead author), Jaime Confer and Cari Goetz. Buss, Easton and their colleagues found that women in their 30s and early 40s are significantly more sexual than younger women. Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America's most sexually industrious.
By contrast, men's sexual interest and output, usually measured by a reported number of ******* per week, peaks in the teen years and then settles to a steady level (an average of three ******* per week) for most of their lives. As I pointed out in March, most men remain sexually active into their 70s. According to the new study, as well as the study I wrote about in March, women's sexual ardor declines precipitously after menopause.
...Buss and his students asked 827 women to complete questionnaires about their sexual habits. And, indeed, they found that women who had passed their peak fertility years but not quite reached menopause were the most sexually active. This age group — 27 through 45 — reported having significantly more sex than the two other age groups in the study, 18 through 26 and 46 and up. Women in their middle years were also more likely than the younger women to fantasize about someone other than their current partner. The new findings are consistent with those of an earlier Buss paper, from 2002, which found that women in their early 30s feel more lustful and report less abstinence than women in other age groups. In both studies, these findings held true for both partnered and single women, meaning that married women in their 30s and early 40s tend to have more sex than married women in their early 20s; ditto for single women. Also, whether the women were mothers didn't matter. Only age had a strong affect on women's reported sexual interest and behavior.
And yet there are a few flaws with the data in the new paper. Chiefly: some three-quarters of the participants in the study were recruited on Craigslist, a website where many go to seek hookups, meaning there was a self-selection problem with the sample. (The other participants were students at the University of Texas in Austin.)...”
Conceptualclarity : This study has ramifications for the massive-scale problem of sexually refused husbands (a group I sympathize with but do not belong to.) Apologists for sexually refusing wives typically say that women in their 30s and 40s are so overburdened that it is unreasonable for us to expect them to be sexual. This study to the contrary provides some confirmation to the anecdotal impression that women in their 30s and 40s are actually more sexual than younger women. Unfortunately their libido is very typically directed away from the first man whom they took in wedlock. According to Michelle Langley, the author of Women's Infidelity I and II, the underlying cause of 70 to 75% of US divorces being undertaken by wives is female infidelity. A blog post of mine noted that women's levels of the hormone estriadol were “ positively associated with self-perceived physical attractiveness, but negatively associated with their satisfaction with their primary partner.“ Women with a higher estradiol level “also reported a greater likelihood of flirting, kissing and having a serious affair with someone other than their primary partner.” There are things that husbands in the early and middle stages of rejection by their wives can do, and hopefully soon someone will compile them in a useful book. Although they are not written as self-help books, I would recommend Langley's two books generally to husbands experiencing rejection even if they are convinced their wives have not yet crossed the line into infidelity.