Misandry Must Go Out Of StyleI'm a really sensitive guy. Anyone who knows me IRL will tell you that.
I've also been harrassed and discriminated against for my gender.
The problem I have with this is: it's considered acceptable behavior to humiliate or subjugate males both in public and in polite company.
Once I was with my ex visiting a friend. This is an extreme case I'll admit, her friend had some other visitors... Some self-named "radical militant lesbian femenists."
I have been exposed to feminism in its purest form and have a great deal of respect for its ambitions and views. These people were in no way the embodiment of those ideals. These were truckers and construction workers who happened to be female. They were crude and obnoxious the whole time, and at one point, one of them pointed at me dismissively and said "Is this yours?" to my ex. It provoked a round of laughs at my expense, including my ex.
Another time, at a family gathering for someone's birthday, my wife was chatting with her brother-in-law in front of me. She started expousing the anti-male comment that she has teo children, implying I am one of them. This also provoked a round of laughter. Nobody was shocked by the hate language, nobody felt sorry for me being victimized by such a demeaning comment. On the contrary. It was FUNNY.
I was not laughing. At home I'm the cook, the dishwasher, zookeeper, garbage man and groundskeeper of all flooring. But it's funny to refer to me as if I'm a child.
If I were to male similar comments in any social context, I would at best be tolerated in hopes that I would go away. A mysoginist is looked upon as a pig, a barbarian who knows nothing other than the ignorance he was brought up to believe in.
It is unfair to me that ANY group, be it color, gender, attitude or dress be made to feel inferior and have it be not considered unacceptable by all right-thinking people who observe such offensive behavior. I've never deliberately made demeaning remarks to or about any women in my life, but when I leave my own home... Or even inside it! I may as well just give in and wear a bull's-eye shirt that says "lay it on me ladies. Men are scum and need to be put in their place."
TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses 6 Dec 5, 2012