You Are What You Hear

Come on ye souls,
too long in the sphere of infliction zaps the heart dead!
Dead of positive emotions.

Floating in the fragrance of love,
is always an invitation to be a guinea pig,
in the universe where anything can happen.
for what is love and what does it look like?
where is it found?
what does it weigh?
Is it to be given than received?
Then, is the giver or the receiver the elated?

Could it be that I am what I hear
or
I am what I want to be heard

Or I simply want to have fun on the merry-go-rides of life
and do not bother of the dust and soot much.

Thank you Dancing one. I hear that a lot, that if we give other people power that we are somehow setting ourselves up for heartache or some such thing. But I have to say that when you are in love with someone it is not an issue of power so much as it is a total loss of self control, emotional and physical. It is, almost by definition--an uncontrollable urge.

Then the next thing you know you are breathing in sync with them, feeling as if you are part of them...

It is more of an exchange than it is a "giving away" of power, I think, and in most cases it cannot be helped. However, broken hearts sometimes happen, and everyone recovers differently, I agree.

As for myself--I'd do it all again, take all of the same chances, because when it works, it is what makes life worth living. I would even go so far as to say that finding someone to whom we can give ourselves is what we are all doing, either consciously or unconsciously. It's all about sharing the love.

I thank you for your kind words. I am better now.

Oh... that is what happens when we give our power away. It has to come from within. I know you know that, sometimes we have to feel the pain first before we can heal. Thanks for sharing this as sad as it was. Healing thoughts your way...

Thanks Cup person, for reading, and for understanding.

I appreciate it.

This story hurts like hell.

Frank, most people who have suffered emotional abuse like this will tell you that physical abuse seems in some ways preferable. When someone strikes you you can turn around and strike back, you can show someone the bruise and say "look what was done to me!" you can go to the emergency room, you can even press charges.

If someone ignores you...there isn't a thing you can do, in fact the more you do the more humiliated you become, the more pathetic you appear and feel, and you get very little sympathy because you will be told over and over and over--- walk away while you still have some dignity.

And no one can see the bruises that will never heal.

I know I am not alone with this experience and I thank you two, akindheart and Cheshyre for kindly sharing and commiserating. It helps.

First let me offer a hug too! Secondly, never allow another person that much power over you life. never..I too got hurt twice matter of fact and I know the pain especially when the words appear to be hollow.thank you for sharing..

I am sure what you felt was as painful as if he had physically abused you. Your story rings so full of truth, just how powerful our words and actions can be. And how important it is for us to be truthful in everyway possible. Thank you for sharing in spite of your pain.

The sad stories serve a purpose, we all understand the value of writing them out--putting words to the feelings. It is therapeutic. That being said I could do without revisiting a broken heart every other day. It is exhausting.

It's just that I can still hear the words in my head, and where they once made me joyful, they now cause a flare-up of pain. But the silence is the thing, ultimately. It says more than words ever could, hurts more.

Everyone should get to hear the words, whether it is "I Love You" or "Good-bye."

Time does heal. I know that, but thank you for reminding me. Tomorrow is another day. The possibilities are endless.

Crying over here because all of these comments are so heartfelt and sincere and I am feeling the love.

These kinds of stories are hard for me to write, but I am always glad that I get over it and do it anyway, because the feedback helps me get back on track.

The thing about silence is, it can be interpreted in many different ways, which I have found is often the ignorer's / non-talker's intent, --to create a situation where he or she can come back at some future date and say..."I never said that."

It's daunting, starting from nothing when you have been hurt like this, but I have a decent foundation with which to work so I will be okay. I have good days and bad days. Yesterday--not so good, but I have not let the negative stuff take hold. I know better (tas, thank you). I will be okay.

I was just focused on how magical love is--it was love, by the way, just bad timing. When we were happy it was as if we were spinning on a whole different axis, and I felt full and alive. I am just torturing myself with the remembering.

But there are a lot of words out there and everyone has their own unique way of speaking them, triggering emotions. My hearing is pretty good. I will be okay.

I don't know how to thank you all for these comments. I never expect them, but man, you guys really came through for me. Thank you.

Beautiful words and sad at the same time. What wonderful feelings you felt to the core.


Then those words stopped. I hope you get to a point of healing where those words are spoken to your inner self and you hear and believe those words.


My thoughts are with you.


Paco35

Love the way you describe how amazing many of us feel when we believe we are truly loved



BUT (and also speaking to myself and countless other females out there) it is obvious that you need to be confident of your worth before you have another relationship.



You are bound to feel devastated when a relationship breaks up but to feel so empty and worthless, to have all your positive self beliefs gone too .. well that is just plain wrong and you know it.

That's how powerful words are from a person we value their opinion

=-/ what a wonderful and sad post . I dont think that people really quite understand what damage can be done with words or lack thereof . I am sorry this happened to you .

As always, your writing moves me. I understand these feelings you have conveyed so well here. I think the trick is learning how to allow others to contribute to your life without giving them any power to take away when and if they leave. That is hard but I am getting there.

Nicely written, Miss Q.

"An apostle of their own was sent to them, and they denied him, so the scourge smote them in their sins." (The Koran, the Bee)



Just don't stand to close to him when the scourge shows up. You may just want to whistle a little and walk quickly away from him.

You are valuable. He is just one person in this big whole wide world. And I know compliments only touch you deeply when they come from the right person, but, just because they don't come from who you want them to come from, doesnt mean they arent true. So, remember just because one person walked out and made you feel like nothing, don't forget there are many many other people out there that think you are a great big deal. If it werent true, you wouldn't have someone in your circle, reading your posts. I can't do the instant hard on thing, and bring your body to immense pleasure, infact, I cringe at the thought, no offense, I'm sure there is different man out there that can do that....But, I do think you are a wonderful woman.