I Asked You To Stop, There Is No Excuse

for you to blame it on the alcohol. Alright, so a new friend of mine came out to me after sending me overly flirtatious texts for a bit. I made it clear to her that I am not into girls and very much into guys. Well for some reason starting this past week, she has been calling me pet names like boo, honey, sweetie, cutie and it's just making me feel awkward. She has never done this before and I don't think we are that close because I only met her a couple of weeks ago. I told her last night that I feel uncomfortable when she calls me by those names and that it drives me crazy. Her response was sorry it only happens when I'm drunk. But to me, that isn't an excuse. Isn't it true people say things when they are drunk that they wish they could say when they are sober? It makes me feel uncomfortable and I have NEVER lead her on, so that isn't even a question. I just don't know how to make it clearer to her, so I'm starting to get a little distant. Not in a bad way, but not talking to her everyday, because that isn't necessary. I also refuse to talk to her when she is drunk, because to me that just spells disaster. Don't get me wrong, I have ZERO problems with her being a lesbian and she knows that, but I feel like she is taking advantage of my niceness to her. It isn't fair to me and I feel like she knows what she is doing too. I just don't see alcohol as being an excuse for her behavior but this whole thing is driving me crazy. She wants to go off campus (we are in college) to get dinner, but now I'm not so sure I want to do it. I don't really have the time with the semester getting ready to end soon, but still. Am I over reacting here?
seerose seerose
22-25, F
1 Response Nov 12, 2011

I find it hard to see alcohol as a justification for behaviour - in saying that, people do things they never would have meant to do sober because those all important self-checking systems have taken a hike. Since you told her it makes you uncomfortable then it should stop - regardless of drink.

very true, maybe she normally catches herself, but just didn't. and I sure hope it stops otherwise I can't put myself through a friendship I don't feel comfortable in.

I think that is totally fair enough.