My husband and I have been married for five years now. I wasn't always a surrendered wife, but thankfully my eyes have been opened. I try very hard everyday to be the type of woman I want to become, I'm still a work in progress.  I stopped nagging and instead gave my husband the respect he had always deserved, I listen to him now and fight the urge to give him my constant opinions. I acknowledge all that he does for our family, working sometimes seven days a week so I can stay home and raise our children,  I am so grateful for his sacrifice, it wasn't always this way. I'm finding joy in things that I once dreaded. I love being a housewife, the chores that were once overwhelming I find happiness in because I feel its something I can do to make his life easier and happier. I love the man hes become, I see him for the man he is, that's something I couldn't do before I surrendered. He is my leader, my love, my life. This change I've created in myself has meant so much to us, its helped put us on the right path. -For that enlightenment I am eternally thankful.
traditionalwifeanjul traditionalwifeanjul
8 Responses Jan 28, 2011

Respect begets respect. If you offer a man respect usually he's touched and longs to bring you happiness.i know its an old post but it gives me so much hope. A wife who humbles himself before me will find that i go even lower than her and treat her like a goddess. Thank you for words

This is an old post but this is the reason why I joined EP... :)

I admire you being able to fully submit already and enjoying the gifts of it...any update how things are now in your family?

I am not yet married but I wish to and hope my boyfriend sees potential in me for his future. He gave me a book as a present one time and it helped me a lot to be open to ways of surrendering. Since I am Asian and the writer is non-Asian, some things I don't agree but since my boyfriend's also a foreigner and I see the author's ideas fit to his situation, then I can only follow.

It is very difficult. I feel alone in my pursuit as no one taps my back and says, "Hey girl, you're doing it very nicely", or, "Maybe you should lessen this more or how about trying this or that".

I love my boyfriend so dearly, it is why I wanted so much to master the choice of surrendering. Just sometimes it feels difficult especially when there's culture shock. Also, we're now separated by a very long physical distance, what connects us is the internet, that made things more difficult.

But I guess, the road to real success is the rocky path as it teaches many life learnings, so I'm not giving up...Just venting out that I feel heavy at times as it feels excruciating...

Cheers to all others who are now experiencing the joys of surrendering. I hope to follow your footsteps... :)

so do you act how he wants you to?

This is what bring me happiness, so I guess the best way to answer that is, I'm behaving in a manner that brings me great joy in life. :)


It's great to read this post by a wife who has found the joy in surrender. A wife that surrends to her husband invites her marriage to go to the next level - a level characterized by remarkable peace in the home, and a sense of personal fulfilment that goes beyond what can be experienced when wives and husbands reject the traditional roles of "husband in authority" and "wife in submission to husband". Does a submissive wife have to stay home and look after children? Absolutely not! A submissive wife can be a CEO, have no children, earn more money than her husband etc. But yes, she can also be a stay-at-home mom with no independent income of her own. Submission is not about the wife's job or her income - it's about her state of heart and her desire to submit to her husband's authority over her. In fact, she does not even need a dominant, authoritative husband to derive pleasure and fulfilment from respecting and obeying him. It's all about choosing the best kind of marriage and then honoring your choice with action.

Congratualtions, on finding a path that suites you as an individual, and also as a spouse. :) I'll pray, that it continues to work for you.


bravomale, thank you. <br />
laserx, I couldn't agree more. I don't understand the need for equality. GOD did not create us to be equal, we are different, so we compliment eachother. My strengths are not his, and vice versa.

Your husband a is a very lucky man i wish