Why Dd People Seem To Boast About SpankingA lot of folk who really can't understand the lifestyle read the stories that all seem to be boasting about spankings and how painful, etc. Well of course some of them are erotically motivated, but... when it is to guide behaviour, what they don't realise tis that it's the culmination of a lot of talking, discussing, encouraging - and CARING. It can give a completely false impression that guys are wicked brutes, scraping the barrel for excuses to unleash a little bit of sadism upon the backside of a woman who is too stupid to realise she's being abused. Truth is the men involved are perfectly reasonable and go to a lot of trouble to ensure their wives want for nothing. The learning process is as great for them - setting boundaries and maintaining them. A man must have a lot of courage, self discipline and integrity to take charge of somebody else - and it takes a lot of trust to accept it, particularly if you aren't a naturally submissive woman. Teaching someone to behave and speak in a respectful manner requires time, patience, firmness - and kindness. Oh, and respect. It's a delicate matter. The women certainly feel cared for and loved because the spankings mustn't ever be carried out in the heat of intense anger. They also must never be overlooked or put off or delayed for too long. There is a lot of self discipline as well as self restraint necessary in doling them out - which should, as you both learn how far you can push one another, get less and less after a time.
BDSM is a different thing altogether
Later edit June 7 2012
I forgot to mention the praise and rewards - how bad is that? Treats, trips, praise, being noticed and listened to - so much positive reinforcement.