What to Do

im a 36 year old male. i've been married for 12 years to a wonderful 29 year old woman. we have 2 beautiful kids. im in the military currently stationed in afghanistan. i've always have been atracted to men but have never told anyone. my own family does not know. i've never been with a man nor am i looking to be. my problem is this is a secret that will come out sooner or later. i'm affraid if i tell my wife i may lose her. but i cant keep this a secret forever. should i tell her and risk losing her or do i keep it a secret and hope she never finds out. i need advise from someone who has been in or is in the same boat. thanks

bigi bigi
36-40
2 Responses Feb 17, 2009

If you love her and don't want to lose her you don't tell her cause I was in the same boat and I thought if I didn't keep secrets from her so I told her and it wreck our 15 year marriage so keep it to yourself dude

I am in same boat as in no one knows my feelings.<br />
I am not going to tell my wife anything, but, I am not going to get with anyone either.<br />
I am going to continue to **** myself silly with my toys, while I fantasies about big ***** and ***.??