Heartbroken Over My Break-up
I am feeling so sad & hurt, because he is the first person I have gotten close to in almost four years. He and his wife were separated for over two years, they hadn't gotten their divorce due to finances. He & I started to date almost three months ago, we started getting serious probably too fast. I have three children & he has two. I've been divorced almost ten years. Due to his financial situation & him wanting to spend weekends with his son, we spent about every weekend with our children doing things together as a family. I can count four actual dates we went on & we did have some alone time together at his apartment from time to time. I don't think there was enough time alone, us building more trust & I just wasn't sure he was ready for another relationship. I found some glamour shot sexy (nude under a blanket) pics of his estranged spouse on his computer this week. He of course said he hadn't looked at his pics in a long time & forgot they were there. And just so you know, she ended their relationship, has been in another relationship for a while. She called him last night to discuss their son's birthday today and he felt the need to talk with her in another room away from me. I number one went against my own rule to not date anyone who has not completely ended all current relationships/marriage & stayed in this too long, even though I had some red flags earlier. This guy has such a wonderful, loving personality that I thought it would be okay. I feel like I should have known better than to build emotional bonds with someone in his position & now I am paying for it with pain of my own.