In the Darkest of Hours...Humour is, by definition, a funny thing. It can be used with as much cruelty as a rack and pair of thumbscrews, or to lighten the deepest of pain.
Having seen many people in times of despair, sudden loss or facing the inevitability and then realisation of loss, and worked where death is a not infrequent reality, I can say with certainty that it is the warmest and most centred people that find the space for appropriate humour in these situations and it's the mark of deepest respect.
There is something about finding balance and an open perspective, a genuine and mature wisdom that allows people to find the light in any situation. It's not a matter of finding something to laugh at, nor finding a silver lining, or making light of the situation - instead it seems to stem from a profound understanding of the way life works.
Some day, I'd like to have the maturity and wisdom that those people had.