Only You Can Fix YouThere have been many times in my life when I have loved someone so much and so selflessly, that I was willing to sacrifice my life and my happiness and my time and even my health to "fix" them. I felt that these people just needed someone to really genuinely care about them, and that would magically fix all of their problems. If they felt loved, then perhaps they could stop being addicted, stop getting into trouble, stop cutting, stop sleeping around, stop hating themselves.
I was wrong.
What I now know, after trying to fix people time and again, only to be stabbed in the back, or deserted in favor of the vice that is slowly killing them, is that you cannot "fix" someone who doesn't think they are broken, or doesn't want to fix themselves. You can offer your support and your time and even your assets... but in the end, it has to be their decision. It's hard to sit and watch the people we love make themselves more miserable... but until they want help, that's all we can do.