I Will Never Forgive My Abusive Father

My father has been emotionally abusive to my mother and I for my whole childhood.  It got so bad that he would scream at us for several hours on end nearly every day.  The smallest thing would set him off.  Every time he would threaten to do horrible things to us and if we tried to leave the house he would block us.  One time he ripped the door off of my mother's car.  Nothing was ever enough to prompt my mom to leave him, even no matter how much I begged.  Then, just recently, we had another fight.  It wasn't even that big, but I looked at my mom and said "do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?"  And she said no.  And she kicked him out.  Since then, I have still barely been able to function.  I thought that getting away from him would magically make our lives tolerable.  It hasn't.  What should I do?

xyz987 xyz987
13-15, F
1 Response Mar 8, 2010

Its been a while, but how are you doing at this time?<br />
Did it become any easier dealing with your lives?<br />
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I myself find that taking martial arts/self defense classes helps. It'd be a boost to your confidence and help you when you're in such a situation with another aggressive person. Other than that, talking about it helps, or spending some time alone in a place you feel comfortable and writing down those events.