Frustrated Sexual Being

I don't want to repeat what I just wrote in the "I have faked something" group because there I talked about my experience in faking countless *******. 

I started having sex when I was 18 and I had my 3rd partner when I was 19 which is when I started faking *******.  I was able to climax from oral sex only, and that was only with one partner.  I came close with another partner. 

I can climax when I ********** (with a vibrator, rubbing myself on a towel -- I know it sounds weird but all you women who are in the same boat can ask me about it if you'd like=).  I can't just from touching myself or using a *****.  Penetration feels great but is beyond my realm of comprehension when it comes to *******.

What was great about orgasming from oral sex with one of my last serious partners was that just being able to do that once opened me up mentally to the fact that it wasn't an impossibility....and after that time, I was able to most of the time.  This obviously makes the point that so much of it is mental. 

I am just so incredibly frustrated by my inability to ******.  I have friends who easily have ******* and don't even like sex that it drives me crazy because I absolutely love sex in any form. 

I KNOW that other women share my frustrations and I would love to hear any advice from those who have 'overcome' this frustration or hear others share any other tips or experiences.  Thanks!
av789 av789
26-30, F
4 Responses Feb 7, 2007

You said you were interested in tips. See my story in this group.

Same here. I think it's a pretty common complaint. From nature's point of view, it's not that important that women ******. As long as the promis of coming drives men to ****, reproduction will happen and all is well.<br />
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So look after your own needs. Maybe you'll be surprised one of these days!

I have a thought ... Is it remotely possible since you suffer from panic that you are scared to let go of those inhibitions and give someone else control of your body? <br />
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It IS very emotional and have everything to do with your mental state ... I used to have the same problems as you ... so I feel for ya as it's quite frustrating on many levels.<br />
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Best of luck.

What if you *********** yourself during the intercourse...would that be so bad.