Living By My Own Rules Now...

Awesome!!

I'm happy to hear you are gonna grab the bull by it's horns…..and I wish you all the best on your journey!!

I'm glad you have made this decision to live your life for yourself. Be strong, love yourself unconditionally. You can do anything, don't negative people get in your way. You can.

You are going in the right direction. In the end the only solution to anything is love. First you have to learn to love yourself. Then you have to move to learn to forgive. You will find that when you can forgive the hurt gets a little less but more importantly you will realise that the main one who benefits from your forgiveness is yourself as the gnawing, the hatred and the loathing moves away. Love and forgiveness move together. together they they give you the chance to establish and re-establish relationships which are the key to life.

I am in a similar position as you though I have not been raped physically. Emotionally raped for sure. Stay true to the words you have written. I am still trying to figure out though it sounds funny how to love myself and take care of myself. It was so, so easy to take care of others. I just have to break through this illusion that I have created which stops me from being myself. Bottom line is loving yourself unconditionally. No one else will so you have to do it yourself. Hammer that through you. Do not let the past take you to the dark side. Make sure you forgive, know that negative emotions are your enemies. The pebble of pain was dropped a long time ago. Do not let the perpetual pain ripple color your future. I wish you the best in your journey.

I love how determined you are, despite everything. I hope you never ever give up.

Thank you everyone! Your kind words and support mean a lot. I am feeling very blessed to have found such a wonderful community!

I have found that just being able to make the statement "living life for me"- is empowing. Thanks again for the love and support!!

I feel like I am in the EXACT same situation as you. I realise that isolating myself from the world has done nothing but create more problems in my life. I so desperately want for you to be victorious in the pursuit of your dreams. Thanks for your story!

What a wonderful attitude, albeit developed from your adversities.Well done.

I have always put others first (family) but my rewards have always returned to me. I have the love and support of children and grandchildren.

But there are things I now want to do that are for me and because of my lack of adversity, find that hard to plan.

What a wonderful attitude, albeit developed from your adversities.Well done.

I have always put others first (family) but my rewards have always returned to me. I have the love and support of children and grandchildren.

But there are things I now want to do that are for me and because of my lack of adversity, find that hard to plan.

I wish you much luck, and truly hope that you find what you are seeking in life.

Good on you! I hope and pray that yourjourney forward is all you could wish for.

I have found myself in the trip of redescovering myself and recreate almost from scratch my relation with love. As I had a different perception of love from a while ago now, with these new glasses i started to love and to care things that made me feel more empowered with the universe and as I read you I can only say that I love you for what we are, I do not know phisically but I love you because you represent that part that is awakening for a evolution of humankind!

GOSH!

After reading all the comments already posted I am at a loss as to what to ad. There are probably so many of us in the same situation, I just had to say something to someone who has got her stuff all together and not as the usual out come, "I finally got all my stuff together and now I can’t lift it."



I think you have all your stuff together and can run

with it.



One of my favorite expressions, "KEEPONKEEPINON"



GOD BLESS YOU



poacherjo

U live just once.

U are playing a role in this drama of life.

Live large & Play your role well.

U live just once.

U are playing a role in this drama of life.

Live large & Play your role well.

U live just once.

U are playing a role in this drama of life.

Live large & Play your role well.

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm now where you have been, haven't found the strength yet to move forward, and those negative voices are keeping me down trodden. But thanks to people like you who share your stories let me and others know we are not alone and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you so much for giving hope.

You sound like a very strong, brave woman to be able to move on with your life. Congratulations, I wish you all the best. Hopefully one day I will be able to do exactly what you are doing now. This takes courage and strength. Well done!

Your so Awesome! Thats so cool! Really, this step of a Positive view of who you are is what People will see and Thank GOD for everyday! I was actually once like you, having those thoughts of not liking myself, or complaining about something i didnt like or even somthing that wasnt necessary to complain about, and i found out that i was just losing Opportunities to do Great things when i thought that way. So like you decided to be Positive, i did to. And Honestly, it has changed my life. It gives me a reason to thank GOD everyday! The thing is, you must believe that GOD is your guide and by the grace of our lord Jesus Christ, his path to righteousness will make us fulfill what were here for. One thing you must know, ''You are in Control of what you want or the kind of life you want to live! No other person can cause you to do what you dont want, except you want it to happen. The important thing is not what people say about you, but how you see yourself! Cuz,You are what you think! If you focus on what you want! Its not very easy, but theres one secret...Always fill Good about yourself And People will see the Beauty that you are, Thanking GOD! Once you think you are, Know you are! You'll be surprised how loved you could be!

I went through all that stuff myself and still having a hard time to enjoy life and still learning to love my self, I always hurt others with my life story's and now that I want to talk about good it get's harder to do with more bad stuff adding on to my life to have conversation is very short when you don't want people to feel bad for you, But my long conversations are the sad ones that hurt others and I'm done with that so I'm still fighting like you are, So most of all of this is to never give up and keep creating happy moments as hard as they can get!!! So I'm with you to live life to the fullest and find happiness !! HUGS & Kisses & lots of LOVE cause I understand where you coming from,Best wishes from me to you ;D

Sheds a tear of happiness for you!

Yes...it's YOUR time now-time for you to take care of you. You have a responsibility to yourself to do it well too! :) P.S. CONGRATS!!!

wow motivating! got goose bumps reading it ....thanx!

This is my story also. My mother and father split up when I was 12. There were times in my life after that that she made me feel useless and a loser. Whenever I as laid-off from a job or fired she would say things to make me feel like a loser or a failure. And forget about dating. This fear of being a failure has stopped me from asking women out and talking to them to start with. I guess I didn't talk to a woman so I wouldn't have to go through rejection.

I am happy to hear such positive words coming from you although you have a dark past. This is the way and don't let anyone discourage you. All the best

That is very good attitude. Soldier on.

I share your situation only I wasn't physically raped. As a little boy I was molested and my father was aware (I have come to believe) and did nothing about it. Like you I have continued to put everyone first to my own cost and dtriment and now I have nothing left to give they still have needs and I am in pain not being able to help. I have used my life savings to asist my one child (there are three) and my future is bleak as I am locked in with no funds to escape. My wife, life partner of 34 years has no love in her body and has less affection with no consideration for either myself or her children. When our children were small and were sick, they called me not her and till today, I am the father and mother. I have been becoming more spiritual in an attempt to find solace and would dearly love to find another direction but lack the courage or the financial backing to do this.

I applaude you with your courage and conviction. I pray you will succeed in your new life and never look back to the miserable life you have led for other ungratefulpeople. Be yourself, for you and think of those without the courage or means to do likewise.

God's speed.

Go go go,,, follow your heart and you'll be fine. God blesses, be happy :)

Go go go,,, follow your heart and you'll be fine. God blesses, be happy :)

I can understand you here, because I have done the same. I have put everything I feel and everything i have done second and tried to make everyone else happy. To the point where I suffered from depression and an eating disorder for over nearly 4 years. I am getting better now. The struggle is hard but i aim to never give up. I didn't think i deserved any better either. My self-esteem and self-worth were practically zero. I always felt an outsider. At school I had no friends and at home I had not family interaction. No one to talk to.

I am slowly letting go of my past bit, by bit. It will not ruin my future. I spent the first 20 years of my life trying to do things for other people so others would give me the happiness I longed for. Sometimes it worked sometimes it didn't. You do need to find what make you happy. I love crafts so I aim to make myself happy and do craft work. We all deserve love. If we are patient enough it will come.

You will find that when you start to get to know yourself after all these years, you will come to appreciate who you have become and know that good thing are meant for you. Things that happen in life happen for a reason and it is usually to help us form into the people we are meant to be. I am so glad you have managed to make this journey of discovery and I wish nothing but the best for your future.