It's True.This is a concept that most people forget on a daily basis. You can't change the past--a minute ago, included, is the past. So what if you can't change it? That just means you have to push forward and make the future better.
I need to remember this, myself. I may not be able to change anything that has happened in my past, but I can change how it will effect me in the future.
I can't change the fact that my father did terrible things to me, but I can change the future and how I deal wit it. I can stop it from becoming a defining characteristic of my life and make sure that when I have kids one day, I'll never let the same thing happen to them.
I can't change the fact that I broke up with my ex, which believe me, I do not regret. But I can continue to look at it and gain all of the knowledge I can from such a terrible relationship. I can take that knowledge and pass it along to my sister as well when she starts dating, and give her signs to watch out for--such as her bf being an alcoholic like mine was, if it ever comes to that (which, I pray, never happens.)
I can't change the fact that I stopped going to church for as long as I did, but I can change that in my future and I'm doing it now.
I can't change that the man I'm with now and I didn't talk for over a year because of the way our conversation had ended, but I can cherish every moment I get to spend with him now and talk to him, as well as holding him. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
Why should we want to change our past? Everything happens for a reason. If my dad wouldn't have done bad things to me, I wouldn't have found out about what he was doing to my sister and wouldn't have been able to have the courage to stand up with her and have him locked away and get justice for us and all of the other girls he did those things to. If I wouldn't have locked him up, I wouldn't have been able to see my life at that house for what it really was. If I wouldn't have distanced myself from that, I wouldn't have talked to my current boyfriend and then stopped because of circumstances I didn't understand then that I do now. If I wouldn't have done that, I wouldn't have met my now-ex. If I wouldn't have met him and gotten with him, I would still be living with my mom and sister in a house I couldn't stand. If I wouldn't have broken up with that man, I would be living with an alcoholic still. If I hadn't broken up with him, I would not be with the man I am with now, about to get a house together and be engaged.
I have learned that everything really does happen for a reason, and good reasons despite hardly ever understanding what those reasonings are at the time.
But no, we can't change the past, and we shouldn't want to. Our past is what has helped us get to where we are, and the past is what guarantees us our future.
Shebby88 18-21, F 19 Responses 25 Nov 9, 2012