This Brings Up A Good Question

To people who believe in destiny - believing in that one's life is planned out when he or she is born - why do you believe in destiny?

If you think about it isn't EVERYTHING destiny?

Say for example you're a single male, working at a low paying job, just "crusin" through life. Is that your destiny? To grow old single and work at a low paying job?

Say you hated that idea. You want change your life so you're not single, so you're not working at a low paying job....so you decide to do something about it. You go out on weekends. You meet new people, including a girl. You go back to school, get a degree...find a better paying and more satisfying job.

 People say they can change destiny...but what if your destiny was suppose to change anyway....so in reality you didn't change destiny. You followed your destiny and your destiny included you changing...

I don't know if anyone understands what I'm trying to say but yeah.

TheAsianSensation TheAsianSensation
18-21, M
2 Responses Feb 16, 2010

I've read your comment over and over again trying to figure out if that's what I mean and I think you nailed it when you said " 'freedom of choice', is actually just an illusion and in reality what we are perceiving as actual decisions in our lives are merely 'destiny'." <br />
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I'm not sure on that last part but the first part I think you got it. The "freedom of choice" that we believe we have, we actually don't. Say you want to buy some water and you go to a gas station. When you get there you a sudden urge makes you change your mind and buy a soda instead.<br />
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Your freedom of choice was to buy whatever you like. You wanted water, but a sudden urge made you buy the soda. Was it destiny for you to buy the soda? Maybe, maybe not.<br />
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I think when you think of life being all pre-planned out and can have a rather grim outlook on life, but I guess I'm coming from a different direction....the direction that whatever my destiny is, it will be one I will enjoy and like.<br />
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I guess the "I'm in control" theory works too, but I don't know, this is such an interesting topic because it's something that might not even exist...this whole idea of destiny, pre-planned life and all that stuff.....<br />
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...and now I'm digressing.

Hahaha yeah this idea is so complex and confusing!<br />
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But what I think I'm trying to say (and I don't think I'm saying it right) is that the "choices" in our lives are part of our destiny. We may think that if we choose "this" path then we are changing our destiny...but what if our destiny WAS to go on that path?<br />
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I guess I can go for an example...although this is probably not going to go well.<br />
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Say you're unhappy because you are not making the amount of money you want....let's say you are currently making 30k a year. You've been working at the same place for 5 years now and for rumors around the office, people usually don't get a raise until their 10th year (totally making this up, so just go with it!). <br />
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Before I list the options, just know that destiny has "preplanned" for you to follow option 2.<br />
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You could 1) Go along with it, work 5 more years and hope you get that raise on the 10th year or 2) ask your boss if you can get a raise and if not, what can you do to improve so the chances of you getting a raise is higher. <br />
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The people who go with the first choice may think that's their destiny to just "go with the flow." Others who "think" they're changing their destiny go with option 2. <br />
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But remember, it was your destiny to go with option 2 in the first place....you just THINK you're changing your destiny...but in fact you're just following it.<br />
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But then again, no one will ever know.<br />
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So I'm just going on and on, probably making no sense, when in the end it doesn't even really matter haha