Okay People Push Me In The Right Direction

I am wanting to get out a a very unhealthy marriage. I don't want to keep re-living the hurts of the years gone by. I want to move ahead and learn from them all. I can only do this if he leaves. He is mentally ill, depressed and physically disabled. Where do I start. Give me a nudge and tell me where to begin?

yogibearmama yogibearmama
46-50, F
3 Responses Mar 4, 2010

Hi, site recommended me to you. So i went to your name and got this story and i can relate. i am divorced from a not nice person. ie:mental abuse, and more. I lost my 18 year daughter(with HIM) about well almost 2 years ago. He was even more horrible. she dfied 4 days before high school graduation and they asked for the 100.00 grad gift back that they gave her!!!! can u imagine, you prob can. i choose not to associate with him. Maybe we can chat sometime. but anyhows, i wish you luck and strength and peace and everything and u in my prayers.<br />

I hope this answer doesn't sound too trite, but it's like that song from Santa Claus Is Coming To Town: just put one foot in front of the other and soon you'll be walking out the door. Take one tiny step forward. It could be as simple as going to the yellow pages and looking for the names of attorneys. The next day you can call one. The day after that you can call another. If that's too big of a step you can just take the yellow pages down from a shelf and put it on your desk or a table. Or you can pack one box for your eventual move. Break the process into tiny, manageable steps so the process doesn't seem so overwhelming. You can make your first step anything you want and it can be as tiny of a step as you want. You control the process. I hope this helps.

Even if you do get out of your marriage. You need to forgive for all the hurts he's done to you, for you to stay healthy. Start praying and asking what to do next,God always answers my prayers. Thats what works for me anyway