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Going Forward With Lessons From Your Past

 I found EP after an extremely great personal devastation.  And I am so grateful for this platform and the friends I have found on it.  I have been fairly sheltered all my life.  Being on board EP has been a very eye opening experience.  I have learnt so very much and have had the privilege of reaching out to many loving people all going through their own sometimes painful journey. 


I would have been isolated but for the support I have found here.  It made the loneliness a lot more bearable.


Here's a poem by Omar Khayyam from his book The Rubaiyat.  It goes


" The moving finger writes and having writ moves on...not all your tears, nor sorrow nor wit can lure it back half a line nor cancel a word of it"


Which is to say that the past once written, is set in stone, nothing can bring it back.   You can only go forward but not back to change what has happened.  That is not necessarily a bad thing.  Because you can always start all over again.  I think in a sense, everyone wants a new beginning.  A chance to rewrite the past.  


While you can't go back and undo the past...you can always go forward and win back the future with lessons from your past.  


Maybe going forward is a form of living life from hindsight.  Looking backwards just enough to learn your lessons without the recriminations from your past dragging you down. 


And you know what they say..... hindsight is always 20/20

Hannah777 Hannah777 36-40, F 30 Responses Apr 1, 2010

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I really appreciate what you wrote,
Thanks, JB

This is absolutely true. We cannot change the past but we can learn from it and embrace it for it's positive, negative, and everything in between. Great post!

Very well said. H.
CHEERS.

Never Be Like a Cigarette,
Bcoz People Will Crush U After U r Done.
Make Urself a DRUG,
Let dem Die 2 Get U !!.

This stood out for me, "which is to say that the past once written, is set in stone, nothing can bring it back. You can only go forward but not back to change what has happened. That is not necessarily a bad thing. Because you can always start all over again. I think in a sense, everyone wants a new beginning. A chance to rewrite the past. "

I really feel that the quote reall does hit home , especially if anyone is starting from the ground up rebuilding their lives , and that includes me as well . thanks for that.

Hi, I thought what you wrote about the future is well-stated...I think that way, too...I seem to be much more secure in moving confidently into the future armed with the lessons I have endured from the past...somehow, all things seem to be relevant in hindsight [after the fact]...like looking back [emotionally detached] at the adverse events to extract the lessons that were hidden at the time [due to being caught up in the moment-off guard or something] and unable to be ob<x>jective...for 2 decades I painted houses, and was very good at it [in my humble opinion]...one of the reasons I was extremely efficient was, before I actually started to paint, I was able to visualize the house completely finished!...then looking backwards, I was able to see everything in reverse, so there were few surprises and things ran smoothly...not only were my customers happy, but I often was tipped well for a first class job...sometimes life can run just as nicely, believe or not...it takes a lot of hard lessons to get there sometimes...you're right though, there's not much we can do about our "sucky past" except to learn from it...20/20...thanks!

Perseverer you are so sweet. And I thank you for your kind and gracious support, you are a wonderful friend.

I am very happy for you and give thanks to God that this site has been a place where you have found healing and comfort. Many thanks for a great piece of writing and for the quote from the Rubaiyat which is one of my favourite works.

I love this piece that you have written. <br />
It's simple truth; no matter what your past may be, the future greets everyone.<br />
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Perhaps this is why GOD made day and night. <br />
A new dawn, a new light.<br />
Does the wind not blow the footprints from the path last taken? <br />
To learn from our journey, yet leave behind what's to be forsaken.<br />
The wind erases the footprint traces <br />
leaves the surface pristine<br />
so that we may start a new journey once again.<br />
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I have friends from Brazil and they have a very interesting custom on New Years. While most of Americans see New Years as a new exciting new start, most celebrate the night <br />
wearing black on this occasion. <br />
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Brazilians wear WHITE. They consider the New Year as a New Beginning, a clean fresh white slate, like a new palate awaiting the colors of the artist's brush.

Love your story and comments

Yes Unshakable. In a sense I'm grateful I'm a lot stronger now that I've come through the storm, Also glad for the lessons I can take away with me. I've learnt not to take for granted, all the good things I have in my life. Wouldn't have found EP if my life had been smooth sailing. You lose some, u gain some. But I sure am glad I'm a different person now than I was 6 months ago.

Life is a journey of forces unknown to mankind.Its through our trepasses and challenges we overcome that we have the experience to know that life is more than that.Its a mystery why we are here on EP.Most of my friends came accidently or stumble upon this wonderful and magical platform.Even better than the The Chicken Soup.

Life is a journey of forces unknown to mankind.Its through our trepasses and challenges we overcome that we have the experience to know that life is more than that.Its a mystery why we are here on EP.Most of my friends came accidently or stumble upon this wonderful and magical platform.Even better than the The Chicken Soup.

Life is a journey of forces unknown to mankind.Its through our trepasses and challenges we overcome that we have the experience to know that life is more than that.Its a mystery why we are here on EP.Most of my friends came accidently or stumble upon this wonderful and magical platform.Even better than the The Chicken Soup.

Life is a journey of forces unknown to mankind.Its through our trepasses and challenges we overcome that we have the experience to know that life is more than that.Its a mystery why we are here on EP.Most of my friends came accidently or stumble upon this wonderful and magical platform.Even better than the The Chicken Soup.

Hi AP. I was on chat with Mewold last nite, heard a little about AmysAngel. I'm glad you like the post. I find that poetry, speaks to understanding the human heart. The thing about tragedy is that it forces you to take a hard look at things below the surface. I am not the same person I was just 6 months ago. I am off the grid of definition for the person I was before my experience. And you know what, I think I like myself way better now, than when I was taking things at face value. I didn't begin to question my life until that devastation. I need to find that "singular frequency" as my EP friend says. Where the hits just keep rolling.

This story is really well-written, and offers so many valuable insights. I've just bookmarked it because I would like amysangels to read it once she gets her internet access back.<br />
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*hugs*<br />
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Andrew

Thanks for sharing especially the poems.WITHOUT EP I WOULD HAVE A CHANCE TO KNOW.

thank you, I too just began my desire to find my own peace n happiness after close to 40 years of a cycle in personal destruction. My past must not make my future any longer. Good luck n I wish you much peace and much love.<br />
I am brand new here, forgive me as Im learning how all of this works.

Ep is ceratainly a very special place

Thank you Bemysong. I am grateful for the people here on EP. It would also make me glad to be part of your healing in any small way ; )

considering that most of us are here anonymously, I too am amazed by the bonds one can make here. I never experienced this anywhere else. I am also in the midst of something...not so pleasant. Turning ones life around is not easy. This site has taught me that I am not alone.<br />
Beautiful poem by the way. Very wise :-)

That was truly remarkable regarding your ex<x>pression of this website.......wonderfully weird how people come to know each other.......

Thanks MeWold you truly rock!!!

You are heading true. (((Hugs)))

Danda, I like what you said about EP being a catalyst to reconcile the past and the future. The best gift we can give ourselves is not to fall into recrimination and self blame while looking back. If we can do that, then that reconciliation can take place. Else, we will always be at odds with our past. <br />
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Granted I will never be the same again. But a lot of things about the new me, I really like. I don't take things for granted anymore and I am a lot more aware of long term consequences of my actions. <br />
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LonghornFan I still got someway to go to regain my societal bonds as you put it. But I trust I will get there. <br />
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Roger you take care and thank you for commenting.

A very wise man that wrote this. A very wise and smart woman to follow it. You must let go of the feelings that derive from your past and learn from it, but move forward in your life to regain your societal bonds...

thanks for reading it and commenting on it roger! ; )

I'm glad you met your Future on EP, Dandaberryshakers. Just goes to show that there is life after personal loss and devastation. Maybe I'll turn the corner someday and open the door to my happiness the way you have. It's always inspiring to read of a survivor who's come through, put it all together, healed from the devastation and moved forward with a great deal of resilience, strength and innate wisdom. Starting with a fresh page with lessons from your past. Enough to learn from it but not allowing your past the power to cripple you again. Thank you for your comment. I wish you emotional restoration, healing, peace and joy.