Married And Cheated OnI have been married to my husband for 6 1/2 years. We have 3 beautiful girls. I am 26 and he is 28.
I found out 4 months ago that he had an affair with a military female. I can't put into words how hurt, betrayed and angry I am. There are just no words. Not only that, but so very many lies came out once I found out about the affair. I didn't even know that man I was married to, that is how excellent of a liar he was/is.
Since finding out, we went to some counseling that make a big impact on him. Not me, though. I feel as though I just cannot bounce back from not only the cheating, but also ALL the lies told and hurtful things said/done to me.
Yesterday I told him I was done. My heart breaks for our little ladies, though. I tried so hard to stay with him and forgive/get over what he did, for my children...but it's too much. I cannot. I'm not a doormat, I am a person with feelings who has been betrayed and hurt beyond repair.
I am struggling SO much with being 26 and about to be divorced. Also just with EVERYTHING that has gone on. I feel no one understands and that since I know mostly conservative people, they are judging me. They don't understand what I've gone through, or how I can never be okay with anything physical between my husband and myself again. That is no way to live.
If you have any help or comments that will bring me any comfort, please feel free to write. I am open to the fact that maybe I am wrong and do need to keep trying for my children's sakes, as well.
Thanks for "listening".
Elizabethanne86 26-30, F 39 Responses 4 Feb 5, 2013