Emotional InfidelityIt happened two years ago, but I still cry like it happened yesterday.
We're in a long-distance relationship. Once I started going to college, he started spending more and more time with an "old friend." I'll call her "Hilda."
It just got to the point where they would spend every waking moment together... once he got off work, he would go to her house and "hang out" until 5am. It got harder and harder to keep in touch with him, and every time we would talk, he would get so angry and defensive.
He said things that made me so upset -- "you're so naive"... "we live so far away so we're not really in a relationship anyway"..."I don't even really know you...we have nothing in common...."
And he would compare me to this "Hilda" girl like she was the Holy Grail of fashion and street credibility...He confided in her in ways he used to confide in me. I thought he was being emotionally unfaithful and verbally abusive. He has denied ever having sex with her, but really, I'm not so sure.
It got to the point where a heated conversation ended with him telling me he hated me, and blaming me for his money/car/work problems. He broke up with me. Then immediately began to pursue Hilda. Hilda refused to be his girlfriend. Eventually he came back to me.
I feel like such a loser sometimes...
paperalias 22-25, F 3 Responses 0 Nov 23, 2007