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I Can't Get Over My Ex Husband

I Can't Get Over My Ex-husband

By: sweets123
Written on January 10th, 2010

I left my husband 12months ago. We both still live around the same area, which i am finding difficult because we bump into each other.. I can't seem to move on with my life, because I think it is one of those scenario "Can't live with him, Can't live with out him!", We have both tried to attempt a relationship with others,(he is with someone) (Me, trying to start a fresh with a new guy).  But some how my husband and me, we just have such a strong pull for each other that we end up getting in contact we each other, he calls round, we chat and then I no that when he leaves to go I can't bear him to go knowing that I may never see him again... When he does leave, I am in a totally state of being upset, then I keep asking myself "What if I went back"??? But I am scared that if I did then it will all go pear shape and then I will regret leaving my home.  I am totally confused with all of these feelings for him, that I don't want to end up making the wrong decision.  Could anyone help me with some advice?? Thanks.. 

By: sweets123
Age: 51-55 , Female
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  • jeffro73
    jeffro73

    The problem is in a situation like this you can't think to much because you will only end up confusing yourself even worse. If you love the guy and you know he loves you back then you need to have a discussion about it and see where you should go from there. Just because it didn't work out once dosn't mean the same thing is going to happen again. My Grandparents divorced before I was born and my grandpa remarried and had two kids with another woman, that didn't work out and he got divorced again and him and my grandma fell in love all over again and have been remarried 34 yrs. now.

    May 21, 2012
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  • golightly
    golightly

    Why not just call him for an honest chat about the situation? Invite him for a bit of face to face time.

    It is possible that you both feel you made a mistake. But even if he does not feel that way you will get a sense of what he is really about. It could be that he is not aware that contact makes you question your decision. He might think that you are over him and so the chats are normal to him and in no way an indication that he still has strong feelings for you.

    But if you clear the air you will know one way or the other.



    And if he does have strong feelings for you - who says you have to go back and lose your home? You could date one another and, if at such a time you wish to, then giving up your home will not be anxiety laden.



    And if he does not have strong feelings for you, you will know that too and be in a better place to let him go emotionally.

    Jan 10, 2010
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