Feeling Hurt and Sad

I am crying as I write this email. I feel as though my boyfriend stapped me in the heart. You see, we were together for 5 years and I thought everything was alright. But in Nov of 2008 he told me he didn't love me the same anymore. There was no reason. We hardly ever fought. So that is why I am having a hard time handling this. I told him not to contact me anymore and hung up the phone. I waited for 2 months and couldn't get him out of my mind. We had so many good times together. He was part of my family. I finally broke down and called him. We talked as if nothing happened. But he still felt the same. He wasn't seeing anybody else and he said he never cheated on me. The feeling just went away. I thought we might get back together. I told him my feelings didn't change and that I still loved him. He said nothing. I thought by leaving him alone he would miss me. I took a chance and told him how I felt. Again I was rejected. He just wants to be friends. I am really having a difficult time handling this. I've never been rejected like this in my life. I said I wanted to see him in person but he said no. He didn't want to give me fault hope. What did I do wrong????

hurtfeelings hurtfeelings
46-50
3 Responses Feb 14, 2009

I believe that REAL love never abandons you. REAL love never dies. What on earth was this guy does for five years. How dare he waste your precious time. He should have married you and had loyalty to his commitment and loved you enough to talk to you about his feelings so that you can work it out if he thought it was worth it...since he did not give you that much then you most definitely deserve to be with a man who will give you that much and more because THAT is what REAL love does. You deserve real love and someone who's heart isn't going to abandon yours. <br />
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My advise is to get a ring on that finger of yours from a man who will commit to you in total and who will, GOD willing, honor the "...until death do us part". <br />
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I say this because I too am suffering a broken heart by a guy who had me move in with him and has now kicked me out and said that we were'nt meant to be...when only four days ago he wanted to work it out with me. So, even though I was happy to hear that, I don't know if I could ever trust him again. He has hurt me and I have cried more this year than I have in my entire live time (I'm 43). So, even if this guy that broke off with you, could you ever really trust him again. Can you ever believe it if he ever said that he loved you again? Like I said, I believe that REAL love does not abandon the one whom it love. Real love changes and develops along with the two people. The people change but the love should remain if it is the real thing. That is what I believe and there are many old folks who will tell you the same. The ones who stay together for years are the ones who have the real thing, real love. Everything else is not worth having because it will only end up hurting someone. <br />
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I know who aweful you feel and what you are going through. It sucks! You should actually be glad (that will take a while to happen) that you did not waste any more of your precious time with this guy. I know it sounds so unreal but there is someone better for you and you just haven't met him yet...someone who's heart isn't so fickle; someone who's heart loves you until he dies. THAT is what you deserve...and so do I. <br />
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Don't give up on the dream of real love that lasts for a life time. <br />
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And the last two comments sound like they are from people who have not be hurt so badly...lucky them. Then again, some people don't feel deeply, nor hurt deeply...lucky them. But some of us feel deeply and that is actually a beautiful thing...because who love more deeply. <br />
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May GOD bless you with His comfort. May He heal your broken heart quickly and bless you with a husband of your heart's desire. <br />
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As for me, may GOD's will be done with my situation with the guy and I and may He give me strength and heal the hurts I am feeling. I only hope that I do what GOD wants me to do and bless me with somewhere to live if I have to leave on New Years. <br />
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I wish you a happy Christmas filled with happiness spent with your friends and family. <br />
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And as they say, love yourself and remind yourself that it's his loss. <br />
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Be well and may Jesus Christ bless you,<br />
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Catrina

be relax....

nothing, these things happen...people change. Try to have fun