I Don't Know...

My husband and I were just married in May, however, we have been together for 6 years. I have never been pregnant.  I would like to have at least one child, however, we have not been on birth control for about 5 years.  We have not been tested or anything but it seems like after 5 years if we were going to have one we would.  We are both in out late 20's and are pretty healthy.  My husband did drugs when he was a teenager (NO he doesn't do them now and hasn't in over 6 years.)  We don't drink, nothing like that. 

I would like a child, yes, but it is okay with me (at this stage in my life) if we don't have any.  I married him because I loved him, not because I wanted a "stud" service.  He gets upset once in a while because he thinks something is wrong with him but he won't go get tested.  He says, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be.  I agree, however, sometimes it hurts.  His 18 year old cousin is about to have a baby.  It is a little difficult to be around her, even though I try and did a baby shower for her.  It's hard knowing that she's 8 years younger than I am but she is having a baby no one wants her to have. 

How do you handle being around pregnant women, talking to them, supporting them when you want a child so bad?

beaglewoman beaglewoman
26-30, F
4 Responses Nov 12, 2007

You're both still really young so I'd urge you to get checked out. Information only helps! But sometimes guys just are afraid to get bad news.

Thank you all so much for your comments. Sorry I have been away for a long while. I guess it is best that we have not had children yet. The past six months have been hell. We have lost our business, our home, moved in with my in laws and I have been diagonised with Diverticulities and Crohn's. There have been so many changes and things to over come, I just am thankful that we don't have a child right now going through this situation with us.

I know that feeling so well. Both my brother and sister are popping out kids and I can't even get pregnant once! All my friends have children as well.<br />
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It hurts to see the look on my parents face...I mean that true happiness and approval for them...something I will never be able to have.<br />
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If you need to talk feel free to message me.

i would say it's definitely worth getting checked out. there could totally be a simple fix. and if there's not, then at least you'd know. for me uncertainty can be maddening.