Don't Understand WhyI am 36 years old, married and have a daughter. I love going to work everyday, I am never late, and I try to always be a positive person. I have never held a job for more than 2 years. Most of the times I was fired was for soft skills not hard skills. I have a Masters degree and two bachelors degrees. Understand I am only blaming me and seeking help but in doing this I must tell my story.
When I was young I was told I had ADHD and was put on medication. I have never used this excuse as a reason for my lose of a job. I have tried hard to change how I act and say around people. I am a very talkative person and I try hard not to talk to much. I can do any job given to me with high success and understand things quickly. I have sought out help from counsilors and psychologist trying to understand why I am not able to hold a job. I have been told I take critism to heart and blow off complements. I have been critised by everyone I can think of, from my family to my wife, and most employers who fired me. Sadly to say I have just lost my (I have lost count on how many) job again. This time I was there a whole 3 days. I was told the reason for my termination was I couldn't follow instructions.
I am tired of losing job after job and for reasons I don't understand. My work performance is normally very high. I am able to do every thing asked of me and more. Understand I have not been fired from every job, sometimes circumstances get in the way and I have to give notice for a job. A job I might have kept a long time, I left because we moved so my wife could take a well paying job. But all in all 2 years is the most I was ever at a job. I just want to know what more I can do to hold on to a job longer then 2 years or in most cases 6 to 10 months. I am willing to try anything, one problem I do face is my wife is no longer supportive of me. She believes I am useless and will never hold a job for a long period of time.
One problem I have always noticed just before I get I fired is I start to worry that people are talking about me and that I will be fired soon. I am very self critical of myself and do not have people around to tell me that I am good and that I can do it. I know that encouragement can help a lot of people, but I don't seem to have that on a daily or even weekly basis. I just want to know what is wrong with me, should I see a doctor or another pyschologist? Please I am desperate to change this life and keep a job longer then I have in the past.
Havocknox 36-40 2 Responses 0 Apr 30, 2012