Payback

When I had my first daughter nineteen years ago, my friends mom told me that my daughter will be my karma for what I put my parents threw.  I was sixteen at the time and as naive as the rest. I knew that I would be a "cool" mom and that my kids and I wouldn't have problems like I did with mine.....Yeah, I laughed too just now.

Well here I am with a teenager who is on house arrest with GPS attached to her ankle. She have been in juvi a few times now and despite her best efforts to get off the gps home arrest she has been ordered to stay on for another month. I seen her give up since then on her attempt to turn around and I can't seem to get her to see she is only setting herself up for more time if she doesn't get a hold of herself. 

 

ayjodean ayjodean
36-40, F
2 Responses Mar 10, 2009

Berniek, I want to thank you for your comment. <br />
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I never made it clear that I was talking about my fifteen year old, my second daughter. but in any case the advice is nice either way..at least she has a shot at keeping the record in the past once she hits 18.

I also have a teenage kid - my son. I read your story several times.<br />
The fact that she has gone this far - being on house arrest sounds like she was most likely uncontrollable during her pre-teen years.<br />
i also am the "cool" mom but I do let my son know that I am a parent first.<br />
Alot of their behavior comes from us...<br />
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You've heard of the old adage - "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree."<br />
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There's no point blaming ourselves or what could have been. She's only 19 and she can still, because she has the time, to change. But now the burden is on you.<br />
You might want to be a good example for her.<br />
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You also need to put your foot down, follow through with what you say, and you need to let her know that life is all about choices, making the right choices.<br />
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Once you make a choice, you need to tell her, that it's up to her to live up to the consequences.<br />
She already ruined a bit of her future by having a police record...this may hinder her from getting a job.<br />
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You need to let her know that. <br />
Don't give up. But don't kid yourself that its' only a phase...these are crucial times..<br />
I wish you luck.