Lonely At Home and Committed

I've ranted and raved so many times about this problem and I can't figure out what the real problem is, is it me?  Do I require too much admiration, conversation, affection?  Or am I insensitive to his needs, he just changed shifts so he's adjusting and tired and now that he's home which i fought so hard to get, I still feel invisible.  It almost felt better when he was at work b/c I knew there was nothing he could do about it, now he is home and he acts like he can't stand it, I think we are falling apart, but he's so emotionally blocked I won't know it until he packs his bags and goes out the door!!!  What a wonderful guy though, truly loving and considerate most of the time, but something has died and it is driving me crazy, seriously look at my profile....Psycho!!!!!!!!!!!

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4 Responses Feb 12, 2009

You are too hard on yourself. <br />
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Communication is the key.<br />
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Sit down and have a nice talk and tell him how you feel.<br />
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Maybe you are reading into it more than what is. Or maybe you are trying too hard. <br />
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You won't know until you communicate. <br />
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Sometimes our emotions get way ahead of ourselves. <br />
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Relationships are a two way thing.<br />
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So talk, talk, talk.... <br />
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By the way, you are not a psycho ! :-)

That's right :)<br />
I hope you have a super weekend....no matter what!!

Been there. It doesn't get better unless you can bring it out in the open. Even though it's scary because the other person could run. But if they run (which is what happened in my situation) then you know that change needed to come!! <br />
Needing affection and attention from your significant other is not selfish especially if you're reciprocating..... Witholding those important gifts from your partner is unkind :( Shame on him.

i feel lonely too in my relationship or non-relationship or whatever it is. look at MY profile: REALLY psycho! your's doesnt look psyko by the way