We've been together for 12 years, married for ten. I'm not sure when I figured it out but I can't stand him about 90% of the time and the reasons are ENDLESS. I'm hoping that writing about it will be cathartic for me until I come up with a real solution.
Reason #1 - he is smothering me. He wants to be around me every moment imaginable and is jealous when I want to spend time with other people; people who I actually like. He had friends once upon a time but he has the impression that being married means separating oneself from all friends. They probably couldn't stand him either and were happy to be relieved of their duties. Lucky bastards.
Thanks for listening.