18 Year Old From HellWhen I met my husband he was going through a divorce and had custody of his two boys. They were 1 and 3 at the time. I immediately bonded with them, and even quit my job to stay home with them. They were developmentally very behind and needed a lot of time and attention. Bio mom was a drug addict that could've cared less about the boys and the oldest, at 3 years old, didn't know how to talk. Anyway, as time went on and the boys got older and started school I went back to work. We did really well until the oldest turned about 14 or 15. Let me tell you, before I continue, that my husband is NOT a disciplinarian at all and I always had to be the bad guy. My husband always believed that he could just talk to the boys and that would fix everything. He did not enforce or come up with consequences. It has been the biggest issue in our marriage, and I have almost left twice because of it. We ended up in marriage counseling, and my husband finally realized that his children were not his friends, and that his attitude towards them was not healthy. He stopped buddying up with them, but he still hasn't ever disciplined them or enforced consequences. Anyway, my oldest started smoking weed, his grades bottomed out, he got arrested for shop lifting, and finally got kicked out of school. He did get his GED, and now works full time at my husband's business. I stay out of that arrangement. Last summer, at the end of august, my oldest abruptly moved out. 3 months later he was at our doorstep wanting to move back in. My husband allowed it, even though I said hell no. My stepson has to pay room and board and I will say that he's done this rather faithfully. His attitude and his behavior and mouth are horrible however, and I'm at my wit's end. He is lazy to the nth degree, he is constantly pushing the house rules, doesn't help around the house and has to be told things multiple times before he'll do them. He was offered TWICE that if he finished his driving school we would help him with a car, and he's done nothing. I want him out of my house, but my husband isn't on board with that. He tells me that our oldest just needs time to grow up a little more (A LOT) and that things will be fine in the end. I am tired of this kid's mouth, I'm tired of his disrespect, I'm tired of his arguing, and I'm to the point that I can't stand to even look at him. I love my oldest son, I truly truly do, and this is so hard, but I do not like him at all. I did not raise him to be the way he is. I took him to counseling but he refused to speak to the counselor. Our doctor diagnosed him with ADHD and depression but he refuses to take the medication he's been prescribed. I can't say this enough....I'm to the point that I want him out of my house.
karmazrevenge 36-40, F 1 Response 0 Apr 27, 2012