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I Can't Stand Sexist People

Why Manbashing Sexist Women Will Be Blocked Without Regret Or Apology By Me From This Day Forth...

By: badbinary
Written on March 30th, 2011
By: badbinary
Age: 36-40 , Male
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  • primnproper

    Agreed, i wrote a story to about not becoming women/man haters as i got sick of the man bashing on here you should all be treated as individuals not pigeon holed with the rest....

    Dec 22, 2012
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    • badbinary

      yeah and that goes both ways. been a funny old year for me lol. i need to look at the other side of the coin too for sure.

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • primnproper

      we all need to do that once in a while hun you're not on your own there...

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • badbinary

      yes ive become a little jaded perhaps but i do try and be respectful. ;) thanks for the empathy on that one btw. its good to evaluate ourselves at times too =)

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • primnproper

      normally any bashing is driven by emotions and hurt, when that calms you know there are decent people out there and you have to let them in to give them a chance or you could be passing up the one that will change your life forever.

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • badbinary

      yes so true and i must say this story is so old now and the situation here is a lot better than it was at that time. ep has changed a lot in that time and its really nice to see. letting people in is tricky for me as i fell for someone in a huge way who died in june. so yeah im just trying to treat everyone with courtesy really atm ;)

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • primnproper

      oh i'm sorry to hear that, you just need to time and space to handle at your own pace hun....always here if you need to offload hun...

      Dec 22, 2012
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    • badbinary

      thank you thats so sweet. actually everyone has been amazingly supportive but they cant undo it you know. I just paddle in water the depth i can handle atm and work on getting deeper gradually. ive seen some stuff since this story too where women needed support and didnt get it as well. ive been very lucky in that regard. Ive had a lot to think about since the time i wrote this really. at the time blocking was a huge thing for me i felt really bad for doing it. it seems people block for almost anything these days. i very rarely use mine anymore tbh. the last couple have been when ive made a supportive and polite comment and some muggle has jumped on it and attacked in a reply. i just dont have the strength for it at the moment. its not them its me and i know that.... ;D

      Dec 22, 2012
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  • clgsassy

    Goood job....
    fine fine radar...
    we all need lovers...
    not haters...
    yep
    justsayin...

    Nov 4, 2012
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  • mistamew

    With a mindset with sexist views, ones ignorance causes them to miss out on what they truly want. With an open mind, there are endless possibilities =3



    I think women and men should blocked that portray sexism, maybe ep could teach people how to disregard "stupid men, and women" in their life. =3



    I am glad to hear that you are doing so much better for yourself, using your own resources for good. Writing this must have helped you a lot.



    Metta.

    Jul 11, 2012
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  • BonVie

    Thank you for saying this. I agree, there is a lot of misanthropic talk on this site...and in the world. I have sympathy for the crap that women have to put up with from the dumb guys out there, and there are plenty, but I have to wonder why women always seem to like the jerks and not those of us who try to be good guys, then they say that all men are jerks: No, it's that the only guys on your radar are the ones who are jerks.

    May 24, 2012
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    • badbinary

      your welcome bonvie

      May 24, 2012
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  • badbinary

    I now follow a policy of just staying out of areas I dont agree with. I do agree with what you say. There is a very diverse range of opinions here and to a degree we must all have a "live and let live" philosophy to a certain degree. The world would be a boring place if we all felt and thought the same after all.



    I'm sure I make many mistakes in grammar and spelling but I do the best I can, as we all do. If the concept that the person is trying to express is incomprehensible in the poor articulation they use then I switch off. Apart from that I try very much to overlook such things.



    On the topic of this article I must say that I have noticed a massive improvement in this area since this article was written and I am left with little choice but to congratulate all involved for better behaviour. If anything I am the upset one atm but I am trying to direct my rage and upset as constructively as I can. I hope that people who think I go too far would notify me of it.



    Thank you for your extensive and intelligent reply. Something you manage on a regular basis I might add. =D

    Jan 30, 2012
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  • badbinary

    @Nylorac99- Agree 100% with everything you said. Proud to call you a friend. Much <3 to you



    @dragonflydreams- Im ony just getting to know you. You seem like a child of light to me and I would imagine you would find those things very hurtful. Im sorry that you have to suffer thru them.

    The 2nd half is very sweet and shows your nature well :O))



    @SunsetSong- First paragraph agree 100% :O) Second paragraph OMG lol. Yes ive dealt with some rather shall we say "colourful" individuals in both male and female form. I believe your story and its a bit of a worry. Maybe he thought he was packing something bigger, I dont really know. I also dont wish to get into it too deeply as I dont want to turn this into a mature content thread. My symapthies however,



    @kitgamesandads- I really dont agree with much of what you said. However as your reply is respectful, I will endeavour to be the same :O) Firstly I dont know why you'd choose to use latin in a thread like this. It seems very off-topic and obtuse. I had a very wise woman who I treasure <3 translate it for me to the best of her abilities. It is a very noble quote. The full thing would make a great EP piece but it doesnt really belong here, I dont think. For the benefit of other non-latin speakers I will provide the translation provided to me:



    4 Love is patient,

    love is kind and is not jealous;

    love does not brag and is not arrogant,

    5 does not act unbecomingly;

    it does not seek its own,

    is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,

    6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;

    7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

    8 Love never fails;



    A very noble and respectable sentiment. Perhaps you should go and quote it at the women exhibiting this behaviour rather than me? I strongly disagree that it belongs in this thread. The bible can be used to justify almost anything, due to the large amount of ambiguous and unclear content in it. Holy wars and mass murder have been justified by humankinds interpretation of this book. I think that says it all... The problem is not the book itself but the way people interpret it and twist it to suit their needs...

    To me this seems to be directed at the wrong side of the equation.... I do love women and have many female friends that I treat respectfully and who treat me the same way. I also speak up regularly when they are wronged in their defense. All I am saying is I do not wish to associate with the ones that choose to condemn me for not having female anatomy. Wheres the love there? Hmmmmm.



    People block others on EP everyday without any explanation. At least I left this....



    A couple of similar analogies for you:

    1. I make a derogatory comment against for example black people (i would never) and then expect a black woman to love me - similar situation in reverse

    2. Im a sheep (not wishing to attack woman) and they are wolves (wishing to attack all sheep in this case men) I should not take measures to protect myself but simply allow myself to be attacked... -A ludicrous situation but similar analogy....



    I am not trying to solve anything. I am simply saying I will not accept this situation personally and advising other decent men to do the same. If there is a sniff of truth to this supposed "equality" I should have this right... If you wish to love these attackers in the way you speak of, I recognize your right to do so. Heck I even hope you enjoy being kicked in the teeth for it. This is what will almost certainly happen...



    I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts even though I strongly disagree with them. I hope that I have kept my reply respectful. Peace be with you :O)

    Apr 10, 2011
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  • kitsgamesandads

    You won't solve anyting this way."Caritas patiens est,beninga est caritas,non aemalatur,non agit superbe,non inflatur,non est ambitiosa,non quaerit,quae sua sunt,non irritatur,non cigitat malum,nongaudet super iniquitatem,congaudet,autem veritati,non gaudet,super iniquitatem,congaudet,autem veritati,OMNIA SUFFERT,OMNIA CREDIT,OMNIA SPERIT,OMNIA SUSTINET"

    My Latin is very rusty but it is easy to understand Latin compared to the complecities of man

    Apr 8, 2011
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  • badbinary

    lmao yerh! look out ghostbusters! Were onto you!

    Apr 6, 2011
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  • myephaunts

    No ghost bashing either dammit!

    Apr 6, 2011
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  • badbinary

    I think all those things are despicable saratogagirl. I have spoken out in support of those issues too :O)

    I do understand the hurt on womens side, Ive said that the whole way thru this thread... Ive also said that if all women were labelled these things please let me know and Ill speak up on their behalf too...



    However I am not guilty of any of the above and I am also a man, chronimax is a man, jimmyrudyjump is a man.... Do you think any of us would do any of the above? There is also a heck of a lot of us not guilty of these labels.... Well beyond these 3 quick examples in my small circle. It is the innocent ones that find it offensive. The ones that are guilty just shrug their shoulder and go "meh theyre onto us..."



    Thank you for your comment :O)

    Apr 6, 2011
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  • SaratogaGirl

    I agree that labelling all members of either gender as anything is wrong. Let me say though, that by and large men on EP do NOT have to put up with the constant barrage of extreme sexism that women have to put up with. How many groups are there about liking to "breed" your husband? Or posting naked pictures of your husband without his permission or knowledge? Or wanting to participate in a gang-rape of your husband? Or holding your husband down while other men f@ck him? All this is just what any woman here has to look at every single day. Perhaps it leads to a bit of a jaded attitude.



    Just maybe.

    Apr 6, 2011
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  • badbinary

    *hugs*

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • sierra33

    Awwww, *hugs*

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • badbinary

    Thank you sierra33 :O))) Such kind words lol *blush*



    This site has a beautiful ambience and I definitely want to add to that not subtract. You of course already do so ;o)

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • sierra33

    I love it when folks come forward and say what's really on their minds and it can be done without bashing the stuffing out of a whole group of folks. You're articulate and fair and that's always a winner in my book!



    I've had my share of yucky pm's sent to me and they might ALL be from just one or two people but I know that the good people on this site far outnumber the bad and it's those good folks that make it so warm and cozy here. YOUR one of those peeps!

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • badbinary

    thank you very much for your poignant comments sierra33 I wholeheartedly agree :O)

    My past is the past, and im leaving it behind me its only been used in thist story as a partial explananation of why I find this behaviour so offensive. ;o) It wasnt easy to be the first man at EP to take a stand on this, so I guess I made it a comprehensive one lmao.



    If similar behaviour is levelled at women I invite peeps to pm me a link and i will just as adamantly stand up and condemn it there as well. I am also quite against quite a few issues that the women of this site unfortunately have to deal with :O( IE harassment by males under multiple nicks.



    Absolutely agree, Ive made some fantastic female friends at EP and its very sad on both sides when folks miss out on that thru their blind hatred :O)



    Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and your words of support. It is very much appreciated.

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • sierra33

    cuddly, I've seen first hand, a situation very similar to what you endured. It was heart breaking. I've also seen women torn down, that is equally sad, but these situations involved specific individuals and not the whole gender base. I know far more good men then bad ones, same with women pals. It's being able to be selective in who you invest in. Just as you're doing now with this thread.



    I totally support your idea here. To universally hate an entire group be it gender, origin, religious, sexual preference etc...Is to universally lose the chance to meet amazing people.

    Apr 5, 2011
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  • badbinary

    hey thank you swimmingswan its all good thank you. originally this story was so i could block and forget. i dont deal well with guilt. so i figured alright reasonings here and now i can just do it and not worry if they want an answer they can find it :O)

    If i dwell on it ill become hateful to and thats so destructive...



    in fact i feel bad that so many womens stories in this group are going un-noticed :O( Ive commented on a few lol :O)

    Appreciate the support though. thank you so much :O)

    Apr 2, 2011
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  • swimmingswan

    oh i really am so sorry for what you have been i really am hope you got away from this person and are having abetter life now no one deserves this and should not put up with it

    Apr 2, 2011
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  • badbinary

    Im sorry anti3static. Im having trouble figuring out which story is one sided this one or the racist one? I dont agree with racism either but there are groups that deal with that issue this one is for sexism. If youd like me to have a look feel free to pm me a link mate :O)



    If you are talking about this story being one sided, well Id have to agree. Because I couldnt find an example of men universally labelling women in a derogatory manner. I strongly suspect thats because men have been taught for the last 40-50 yrs that this behaviour is not acceptable. I also strongly suspect that EP would remove this material if it was posted... If anyone knows of such an example I will quite happily jump in and defend the women. Sexism is ugly on both sides of the coin and I wouldnt find the behaviour im objecting to acceptable if it was directed at women either. If anyone knows of such a case ill quite happily jump in to support that passionately too for the sake of women, because i would know for a fact that is completely untrue. I would suspect it would be pretty hard to find one though... Once again im only interested in cases where all women are labelled as stupid or all women are labelled as cheats or something equally as offensive and decreed universally of them.... same behaviour as im objecting to against men.. :O)



    Thanks for your comments. :O)

    Apr 1, 2011
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  • anti3tastic

    I read your story. We have a mutual friend in our circles. I commented on one of her stories that seemed to reflect the same attitude as a lot of African Americans have; that being that only non- blacks can be racist. Unless I read it wrong, this story was kind of one sided. I told her to also honor the men who have gotten away from being the victim. And I told her that I said this knowing the risk of being deleted or blocked.

    Apr 1, 2011
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  • badbinary

    Oh thank you for your support Lakie. You have to look at it in context.. It is one in 44 posts. I have not even been fazed by it. It was treated as it deserved and forgotten lol. That is what I am doing now :O) If you ever need someone to talk to about whats happening with you, please feel free to contact me. Sexism does go both ways and if this stuff was being said about women there would be a massive uproar..



    There are many, many wonderful women on EP and i never ever lose sight of that fear not.. I have just decided to protect myself from the haters.. :O)

    Thank you for being positive and supportive yourself, you sweet lady <3

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • Lakie

    God. Why can't everyone just cool like you, cuddlyfella. You're obviously smart, highly compassionate - forget the naysayers. For me, sexism, racism, and ageism go both ways. Or all 12893747598 ways. Oh, and the ways in between! :) Thanks for being so positive, cf! <3

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • badbinary

    @441j you dont really even deserve a response..... I am not crying, I am standing up against men being universally condemned.. with a nick like that your probably one of the men with 40 nicks stalking women and a massive part of the reason they end up so hateful, you seem to have quite a bit of hate in you yourself. Either that or you are one of the blocked women in a spare nick and really once again dont deserve a shred of my time or thought.... If youd read the replies you would see I am not a womanhater. so get bent yourself, or even better take yourself and your 40 nicks and go play on the freeway. If you were a decent man who didnt cheat, and was not braindead you would probably find this offensive too :O) Either that or you one of the blocked women in a spare nick, who quite frankly dont deserve a shred of my time or care so please take you plastic toys and go f*** yourself :O)



    @intelligently thank for your comment. I do choose not to accept it. Thank you for acknowledging that right.



    @astrapy thats it i just dont want to be exposed to the toxicity very well put. Thank you for your comment my friend :O)

    Apr 1, 2011
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  • astrapy

    Unfortunately, there are lost of angry people out there.. I have witnessed it from both sexes. But we have no control over what anyone else does, we can only control what we do. I applaude and support your decision cuddly. Misery loves company and distance away from toxidity is the best policy. :)

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • Intelligently

    Seems a bit rash.. but it's your prerogative. To each his own.

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • 441j

    Stop your whinning you woman hating loser, your treating them exactly the same way you say they are treating us!! Be a man and learn how to take it and stop crying out for attention like a little baby. I've been on here for a while and never once had a problem with any woman. Get a life loser and block yourself. Now I know you will block me because you can't handle the truth and I really don't care.

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • badbinary

    Men do need to realise that you cant make a woman like you. I totally agree. They either do or they dont. This I can make her like me is ridiculous she does or she doesnt. I also think that in the 6 yrs that ive been a one eyed bf, a lot of women have also become more aggressive too tbh aliloveless. Ive noticed the difference myself. The confusion and mistrust is causing a lot of problems on both sides I think. :O(



    @smooches glad we were able to entertain you :O)

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • LovelessDeluxe

    @cuddlyfella: Thanks. True, a lot of men don't trust women anymore but that doesn't stop them from chasing women! I think rejection has made men even more aggressive. That's the scary part! The good guys don't want to be around me because I'm not "waiting for marriage". Been there, done that. My best friend is a guy. If women don't like or trust men, just keep them at a friend level and stop chasing them!

    Mar 31, 2011
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  • smooches

    LMMFAO, "broad shouldered amazon"! Man, this is some good stuff! Hahaha...

    Mar 31, 2011
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