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I Can't Wait to Divorce Him

What a Waste!

By: gerrynchappster
Written on September 24th, 2009

Just had it, really had it. The straw that broke the camels back has just been layed down. And I am done, finished, finito! So where to go from here?

I have spent 11 yrs working my butt off to take care of three children. I used to work full time but HE wanted to try something new that he had always wanted to do. So I figured "ok" go ahead. So we moved, and my career took a turn, but I kept working, through two pregnancies and put my kids in day care each day. Driving away to watch some stranger taking care of my babies. But I did it. Then HE lost his job and so we had to move again, and the job didn't come so easy after that. Then I got pregnant and this pregnancy was hard, very hard, my body was trashed, and I couldn't work anymore for a long time. Now the kids are at the age where I am driving them here and there and all around. They get sick and I have to take time off, so I am no longer able to work and be a reliable employee. One son has learning disabilities that I research and try to get help for. The other had spinal surgery and has major growth issues so he needs my help with that. And now my *** of a husband says I don't do anything around "here" and that I should go get a part time job. I bust my butt more now than I ever did at my full time job, but it doesn't bring him the money so I guess I am not worth ****? 11 yrs I have busted my *** to do it all, and I am not worth anything?

Enough, I can't take this anymore. And then I tell him I can't take it and I want to leave and he goes and tells my young children that "Mommy wants to leave us", so now my kids think I don't want them...what the hell is that? No way am I putting up with this anymore...Im done!

By: gerrynchappster
Age: 36-40
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  • ManofWar100
    ManofWar100

    hope you took the loser ex for everything he owns lol

    Feb 3
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  • berrychic
    berrychic

    My heart goes out to you. I know from experience that men never appreciate the help around the house that we women do and I am amazed that even though you're not simply washing dishes and cleaning the house like some of us he doesn't empathize and have any sympathy for you. That's mean. How do you put up with it? You would expect some more gratitude and even more a hand with the kids would be nice after work. He sounds selfish in the way that he deals with confrontation when you told him you had enough and he went and reflected this onto the kids.Kids never need to know or hear about this kind of stuff. They already have their share of problems at such an early age. From how he told the kids what you said he also sounds like a kid himself. Instead of listening he chose to try and get the kids on his side in the case that you really did leave him so they see him as the perfect dad and you the mum who left their perfect dad. I don't know. It's a hard situation. You can't leave him cause you have no income to look after the kids on your own and you can't work on the other hand you can't live with him cause he's another egocentric male.I really feel for you. I hope you don't make any rash decisions anyway cause the kids really need you. I know I would if I was one of them. Hope you find whats best for you all.Warm wishes.

    Aug 26, 2010
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