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I Care a Lot About People

Maybe It's My Downfall...

By: Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
Written on April 15th, 2012
...but I do genuinely care about people. I am a giver by nature and I believe kindness goes a long way...the "you'll catch more bees with honey" analogy is true.

I had to laugh on Friday, I was co teaching Geometry class and the kids were taking notes. I have a few that are FOREVER losing their papers, notes, etc...despite the fact I have repeatedly organized binders for them. We were ending class, putting books away and ready to head to lunch...I had the typical flurry of papers given to me to "keep safe." I do this for them, because I know if I don't, those much needed notes will never resurface come Monday ;)

As I am gathering notes, the man I co teach with...I will say this right now, he and I share the same way of teaching, we say what is on our minds and the kids and each other always know where they stand with the both us...he is one of those grumpy teddy bear types...his bark is worse than his bite ...lol. Anyway, he looks at the kids and says, "You're lucky she cares so much, if it were me I'd just let you suffer when you don't have your notes for the test." That sparked a debate between he and I and the kids about how much kindness is too much...we decided that my caring balances out his bluntness...and the kids actually appreciate us both :)
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By: Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
Age: 41-45 , Female
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    gr8jesus
    gr8jesus

    You are way too kind and awfully generous to say such things, my friend , with humbled appreciation,...:)

    Apr 19, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thank you...

      Apr 19, 2012
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    Mejoe
    Mejoe

    Sounds like the two of you have a good relationship. This is very important in a coteaching situation. I know what you mean about the kids losing notes and such.

    Apr 17, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      I think we do, today was a challenge as it was one of those days fraught with issues. We keep each other's moods in check :)

      Apr 17, 2012
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      Mejoe
      Mejoe

      What subjects do you teach? are the SPED teacher or the Gen Ed?

      Apr 17, 2012
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    antoni45
    antoni45

    ...It is so remarkable......how much your eyes can see, into others mind and hearts.

    yes my dream girl....you are a great giver.

    can I have a tiny hug.....ok ok...here is a huge hug for you

    givers need to get too........right...?

    Apr 16, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thanks...yes givers need hugs too :) I am lucky in that I often get them at school.

      Apr 16, 2012
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      antoni45
      antoni45

      and another hug for the grumpy teddy bear from a grumpy old bear.....hahaha

      Apr 17, 2012
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    Fun2bme4u
    Fun2bme4u

    I had a teacher in 7th grade. She was in her mid 30's, nice as can be. Shewas a veteran teacher who cared about her students. Problem was, we the students didn't care. She tried to get to know us, but we resisted. She tried to guide us before her tests, but very few listened. About 6 weeks into the term, she was having emotional problems of some sort. She wouldcome to class, you could tell she had been crying. You would think the students wouldcare, be extra nice. Nope. They were like sharks in a feeding frenzy.

    soon almost every one was talking and not paying attention, flying paper air planes, etc.

    They literally carried the poor woman out in a straight jacket, we drove her insane.

    I still feel bad about this to this day. We never saw her again.

    Apr 16, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thanks for sharing. Yes, I have seen that happen , some are not prepared for what may come..lol
      I had one woman who came into sub, after 2 hours she looked at me and said, "How do you do this everyday?!" She never came back...

      Apr 16, 2012
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    papri
    papri

    Wish I had a teacher like you...I wouldn't have to bother about my notes and study material...for a kid thats really awesome that the teacher cares for them so much...but as being a teacher you are more than other teacher's do for lil children...thats so thoughtful and kind...

    Apr 16, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thank you papri ...I try, I don't always succeed but I do my best :)

      Apr 16, 2012
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    charmingpurple
    charmingpurple

    I don't think its downfall, maybe most people see caring and being genuine as naive, but the truth is world need more genuine warmth affection, and we all need both gentleness and bluntness, especially when teaching kids in such a young age, its also good to build up their character :)

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thank you CP, I agree with you. Kids need affection and kindness, many don't recieve any at home. It can have a huge impact on them.

      Apr 15, 2012
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    LovingSunshine
    LovingSunshine

    I think it is so great that you take the extra time to make a difference in these children's lives. Without you, some might "fail." Unfortunately many parents do not take enough responsbility, and changing this may never happen, so kids NEED people like you. You make this world a better place for our next generation. You should be so proud. REALLY. I am sure you just naturally have this in you (sometimes I feel this way about things I do) but the truth is, so many do not. Thank you for being YOU.



    YOU are awesome!!

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      :) Thank you, that is a huge compliment. It becomes quite evident observing staff members, that some have the ability to work with teens AND understand them...others not so much. I feel blessed each and every day :)

      Apr 15, 2012
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    PL466
    PL466

    Well as a mom, I do this with my kids...It is the nurture side I suppose..Thank you for the story! : )

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      I agree, it's a Mom thing :)

      Apr 15, 2012
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    Garfield123456789
    Garfield123456789

    Well that is a teacher that I would have like to have had. My notes were always just taken and put in the pile in my locker, I must have had 10 million copies of notes in that locker.

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      At least yours made it to your locker! Lol...it's usually in their car, pocket, the wash, or in the garbage :)

      Apr 15, 2012
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      Garfield123456789
      Garfield123456789

      well that is just the one that made it to the locker the rest like you said hehe

      Apr 15, 2012
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    paco35
    paco35

    What a pair.


    :-)

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      There is truth in that...lol We have fun though, he is easy to deal with ;)

      Apr 15, 2012
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    juliegirlie
    juliegirlie

    wow, nice cute story ... It is true that the balance is between tenderness and gruff method. I had the opportunity to teach at the beginning of my career for two years, I enjoyed it a lot, my students and I got along well. But we must find a balance between the gentle and persuasive manner and with an iron fist in a velvet glove .. But these little guys (18 years on average) are still the little monsters. I left teaching to industry, and now, as lab manager, I have to do with my technicians like I did with my students .... But we get along very well !

    By the way I love the words "his bark is worse than his bite" ... lol

    Nice post, thanks to share :)

    Apr 15, 2012
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      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl
      Thatguy1970sDreamgirl

      Thank you...it's a small snippet of my day. We have a lot of moments like that :)

      Apr 15, 2012
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