R.i.p Amanda ToddI hadn't originally planned on writing a long anecdote revolving around Amanda Todd. However, after recent viewing on the multitude of hideous remarks flowing the Internet about her, I want to state my own opinion on the matter.
I will start by saying I can't believe anyone could possibly say negative comments about a girl who died less than a WEEK ago.
People who insult those who cannot defend themselves are truly pathetic.
This was a terrible event that took place. No one should ever feel the need to take their own life especially at the young age of only fifteen.
People are claiming she had brought the bullying on herself by sending out revealing pictures (sexting) and sleeping around with men.
What I have to say to that is who cares? Why does it matter so much that maybe she might have been sending revealing pictures before hand? Sure, that wasn't that best thing to do, but she was young, it was a mistake that she would probably learn from later in her life if she had been able to live that long.
Why are we even '****' shaming on this matter?
It doesn't matter what she might have done in her spare time. She didn't deserve to die. She didn't deserve to be bullied.
In fact, this 'sexting' issue can probably go along with her depression, which I can more than relate to. It's a amazing feeling when someone tells you you're beautiful when you absolutely hate every aspect about yourself. It isn't about the attention, it's about that brief moment you feel 'loved' by someone else. If she had been sleeping around, that too could be a contributing factor of the depression effects. You're just finding a way, any way, to get someone to care for you, even if it is for a short amount of time.
Another thing that has bothered me. Is people saying how could she sleep with a guy who she knew had a girlfriend? Why does that matter?
She wasn't cheating on anyone. That guy was cheating on his girlfriend.
We shouldn't be out to make Amanda Todd look like a horrible person or a '*****' but nor should we be trying to make her look like the epitome of a human being. We all make mistakes, she will never get a chance to learn from them though.
It is clear that Amanda was devastated for some kind – any kind – of attention she could attain even if her methods weren’t the most productive. If anything, we shouldn’t be acting like she is some sort of demon, we should recognize this as a cry for help. She wasn’t a dreadful person, she was a human being. And sometimes we need help.
No one was there for Amanda.
One last thing I want to point out people seem to be up in arms about this whole Amanda Todd Suicide Case getting so much awareness when so little teen suicides ever get to this publicity. There are two reasons why Amanda has hit the public eye so much, and they are as follows:
1) The video. Plain and simple. Without this video people wouldn’t have nearly known who she was, her story, or what she went through. This video provided something most people have never delved into. Something most people don’t even give a second thought to if they haven’t been where Amanda has. It gave us a true understanding about the effects of bullying, it makes the whole concept way more graspable, people can feel for her, relate.
2) Controversy. When you bring up any other case of suicide people can automatically feel so terrible for that person; however, in Amanda Todd’s case people can nitpick at everything little thing the public can dub as wrong. People love arguing, and will do it at any chance they can get even if it revolves around a young girl’s death. It’s a very saddening though, but alas it’s true. A fragility of mankind.
What we really need to do besides this ******* bickering about her suicide is to actually learn something from this whole mess.
1) Sexting is very dangerous and this should always be expressed fully to children.
2) Parents should watch closely to what their child is doing on the Internet, because it is a dangerous place.
3) Parents should be better informed on how to handle a situation like this instead of just switching schools in hopes that will help.
4) We need to understand the mass effects bullying truly has.
Amanda, by committing suicide, wasn't a sign that she was weak -- it was a sign that she had been strong for far too long.
I hope you found peace at last Amanda Todd.