Our Parents Live With Us
My husband and I bought a very large home 12 years ago because we believed that our parents would some day come to live with us. based on our siblings challenges we were correct. My mother in law moved in 3 years ago and my father last August. We were fully prepared to care for the parents we knew. However the parents we knew did not move in. Some control freak parents moved in. We spend most of our time jumping to thier whims, explaining our actions, (ie, why we decided to raise chickens), and trying to keep everyone happy in the house. We understood their health care needs and have met and exceeded them with no issues. The issues are on the daily things, what they will eat, or won't eat....even if they ate it a month ago.... explaining why we need a nap, why we did not mow the yard yesterday, why we do not want to go to Walmart every day of the week. It takes its toll. Most days I am greeted by a list in the morning rather than a "good morning". Our parents are making us frustrated. Any ideas that can help us calm them down? I do not work outside of the home but my husband works a 12 hour shift 3 days one week and 4 days the next. He drives 2 hours to his job each way, making each working day a minimum of 16 hours, without the shower and shave time. I know he is exhausted, and our parents should too, but enough is never enough. We love them both and want the best for them, but they do not understand that we are in our mid 50's and do not have the energy to just "jump to" whenever they deem.