I Care For My Mother Who Is 89
As I am single and the most financial and available it sort of fell on me to look after my parents. My dad has been dead 4 years (alzheimers) but I am still looking after my mother who is 89. In many ways she is in good health and manages many things independently.
She is physically finding things harder and I don't always deal well with some of these things - lately she has become somewhat incontinent and I do find that challenging.
We were always great friends on top of being mother and son so that made things somewhat easier.
The worst part was that 10 years ago she suffered a really bad bout of depression - like unbelievable intractible psychochotic depression. She made a complete remssion, but when she got over the episode she was never the same personality- and intelligence-wise - and I found that the friend I knew had died. So that is really the worst part. The old woman I am looking after is not the same person I knew and loved. I don't think I have really got used to that change.
However we make a go of it. She gets some home help each day for dressing and showering and goes to a day centre a couple of days a week. Her needs are very simple now and easy to meet.