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I believe that my/our generation has lost a very important element of social fabric. I say fabric as there is a weave involved in fabric, the tighter the weave, the stronger the fabric. I believe we have lost stength in our weave. Across our nation we have families so busy working to get ahead and improve our standard of living that it leaves little time to keep our parents. Many treat their pets better than their parents.

About me. My mother died of cancer when I was 7 yrs. old and my stepmother died of complications caused by sugar diabetes when I was 25. My father died of a heart attack when I was 40. He was very independant firmly rooted in his own home, city etc. and at 73 and was still working when he died. Prior to that when he was having some medical problems, my sister and I both invited him to come live with us but he would not, nor did he want any financial help. So I'll never know how it might have been if he would have accepted our love in that way.

Another comment is that I had the opportunity to work in Japan in 1987 and 1988. A month there, a month back in the states, back and forth. So I was able to see much of their way of life and one way was for multiple generations to all live in the same home all caring for one another untill death. This was beautifull and we see some of that in here in the states. I believe the Hispanic culture is much the same. So I think you know what my beliefs are. Yes untill death do us part, in sickness, and in health, for richer or poorer, in good time and in tough times, etc.

I think parents do more for their children than children do for their parents as they let their children continue living at home well into maybe even middle age. Loving and continuing to give, give, give.

Well, enough .... I hope this commentary is not to long.

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Posted May 12th, 2008 at 1:28PM
not at all long...its actually very helpful to finally see that point of view =] and i sadly have to agree w/u.

but i mean what can be done about it??...
     
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Posted Jun 2nd, 2008 at 8:53AM
I think that depends from what kind of family you come and how you are, I did not have great parents yet I still care about them and I always try to be in touch and help.
     
Posted Jun 2nd, 2008 at 9:00AM
I feel myself moving closer to you TenderEyesPrincess
     
Posted Sep 3rd, 2008 at 2:50PM
If everybody cared about their own family members, no matter what age-the world would take care of itself.
     
Posted Sep 4th, 2008 at 7:21AM
Maggie 1 2 3, I agree. Love starts with loving the Lord then to loving our family and when we do this Our Lord gives us an abounding love that goes way beyond even to loving our enemies ... yes the world would tske care of itself with the Love that our Lord gives us ... to feed the hungry, to clothe the naked, to give water to the thirsty, to give shelter to those who have no shelter, to visit the sick and those in prison ... Blessed are the Pure of Heart for theirs shall be the Kingdom of Heaven.

Charlie
     
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Posted Jan 8th, 2009 at 9:47PM
this is good. god will bless you!
     
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 4:30AM
Its really very true that loving our family is loving to Lord. And he always watches us. Elderly care is really very important as at this stage they need our love, affection and care. That;s why care homes are established to help such who don;t have there own home and no body is there to care them.

http://www.caringuk.com
     
Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 2:49AM
It is very true that young members of the family,are alway's busy doing something, if its not work then it is their social life. I am now disabled and should i ask for a little help it is always (wenether) wenether never comes. I get the same response when i remind them ,so have given up.If they see me doing something they say you should have asked and i would have done it. i say sorry wenether is to long to wait. So we have definately lost the family threads.Years ago there was nothing to do as there is now,so it was all family. I do wonder if in our younger day's if there was a lot going on,would we as youngsters have been like the young today.Like many of my generation i am bank, taxi,I was going to say advisor but young people know every thing so they think.
     
Posted Oct 15th, 2009 at 3:17AM, last updated Oct 15th, 2009 at 3:19AM
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Posted Oct 31st, 2009 at 5:47PM
You are right,i didnt have such good parents but we live in this materialistic world now where people just dont seem to stop and think.....
     
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