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Will He Ever Forgive Me

My husband and I have together for 6yrs,married for almost 4yrs.Back in May 2008-I joined a website that I should have never went on.I never intended on talking to anyone but,i did.We talked on the phone and via email for a 1 1/2 mths.My husband found out that we were talking,the other guy didnt know that I was married until my husband called him.I felt bad but,I kept talkin to him.I was letting other people influence my thiking.I agreed to meet him,I stayed with him for 2 days b4 goin home.When i went back home,my husband was gone.I was and still am devasted.He says he doesnt know if he'll ever be able to forgive me.The thing is,I know I made a mistake.I want to make right with him.I love him.Well,now he hardly talks to me on the phone,when i call on the weekends he doenst pick up.but yet he says he cares about me and will help me.This is killing me,I feel like i cant go on.He has been my world and if i lose him,I know i will lose myself.I think of hurting myself-because without him,my life has no meaning.I dont want anyone else.I want my husband back.

BrokenHeartedGrl BrokenHeartedGrl 26-30 20 Responses Aug 30, 2008

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Your husband warned you and you continued anyway. The other guy new you were married and also continued after being warned by your husband. Clearly you do NOT love your husband, you do NOT respect your marriage. So, you want ahead and compounded the affair by making it physical. Now you are contaminated. Did you ever think that you were trying to end your marriage? There must have been something so wrong that you intentionally blew it to pieces with your words and actions! Did you ever think that now your husband is gone, the reason you miss him is that he was not the problem with your marriage - you were! You were not putting anything into your marriage, you were only taking. When you got all you could from him, you went looking for more. A lot of men and women think that relationships are only about what they can drain out of them. They do not understand that a relationship is a partnership that both parties need to constantly invest in. You embezzled all you could from the relationship, and then when it ran dry you went looking for another relationship to raid. Let your husband go, if you have any love for him encourage him to find a mature and decent woman. Help him, by letting everyone know that you screwed up and that he is a great guy that deserves a great gal. Then work on yourself. Think about what is really important in life - love. Not stealing love, but creating and sharing love with others.

Sometimes i ask myself, what really make those who claim to love you stay ? Is it the feel of protection, or the feeling that their money is enough to make someone endure their presence until it all blows away or the feeling of love, or is it all these wrapped in one big gift bag? I never got to know the answer to my question and i may never get the answer. You see, i had money or rather i can say i had enough to care for my ex wife now and my two kids and heaven know i gave my wife then all the love she needed from me in every way i can imagine or possibly give love. I gave my family protection, love and everything one can ever ask for in one big gift bag. Now speaking of my ex wife, i did the impossible to see she was happy all the time because i loved her so much that seeing her happy really makes me happy. But it seems to my ex wife money and the good life was everything and love, was nothing but an illusion. Some how in a way one thing leading to another i lost my job at J.P Morgan as an accountant and just like that my beautiful world of colors as i knew it, came down crashing on me. Being not in my youth and vibrant age it was so impossible to get a new job. No one wanted to heir someone like me i mean if it were me, i sure as he** wouldn't heir me. They all needed a fresh young and updated version of me. After six months my bills started pilling up i was so late on my mortgage and every hard thing that happens when someone losses his job just as a finger snap was happening to me. My wife being my wife saw this and thought there was no way out and then she felt me filed for a divorce and wanted to take all i had left. The one thing that kept me from breaking just as i watched my life come to end. She wanted to take my girls from me and have them rised by her lover. This will be a very long tale if i start on how she got herself a new man off course with money and managed to make him fall for her just as i did so i will just skip that part. The fight for custody went on and i was going to loss in all ways because i had just lost my job and house was gone and i was diagnosed to be emotionally unstable. By some cosmic accident that i don't even believe in, i found a witch doctor named Mutton Osun on the internet who out of desperation i contacted for help and somehow placed all my hope on and heave bless him, he lived up to his words. I poured on him my sorrows,I told him how i lost my job ,my wife and how i was about to lose my girls and he listened and comforted me via telephone. Speaking to Mutton Osun healed my heart and gave me hope again. Mutton Osun is a rear gem that can not be easily found. I wanted him to help me get back my job and win my girls custody battle. He asked me to get some materials which was going to be used to get a spell done to grant my request. I gave him the money to get the materials for me because it saved me a lot of expenses. After four day he sent me a package asking that i follow the instruction he left along with the package. I did all he asked of me and like a miracle i was called back to my job at J .P Morgan with them saying i have been given a second chance after six month? and just after the spell? it only explained on thing that the spell is at work and i won the custody case of my girls just as i asked. I should have asked for my wife back but no she caused me so much pain and every bit of love for her ,was dead. You reading should not just believe me. Contact Mutton Osun let him help you and your problem them you will believe all this is as real as it gets. Use this as contact godsofosunx @ roc ket mail. com
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Are you kidding with this ****! Why should he forgive,that's right he shouldn't and you know it.

Add a response...well it's to late for that ,our actions have consequences ,no get out of jail card on this one. Trust is like verginity once it's gone you never get it back. Let's be honest he deserves better then you we both know that sure hope he feels the same.

After being in relationship with a guy for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr, Aduwawa and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: (aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com) you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR.

this email address of the spell caster is wrong can you pl provide a right address thx

I too had a one night affair with an ex boyfriend,when my marriage was on the rocks. Its been two years of hell and. Things are finally starting to look up. Like I said its been reall tuff but tjr hard times will pay off. If u love and believe he loves u, fight for it! Goodluck!

I think you ladies that are cheating(hey, **** happens)need to have a brutally honest conversation with your husbands. There's something that you are not getting at home that drives you into the bed's of others. Maybe, you feel that sex is too infrequent. Tell him. Perhaps, you are just more sexual than he is,and is desiring more(quality and quantity), or maybe, he's just not big enough in the pants to hit your sweet parts. In any(and every)case, tell him what's going on. Remember, we can't read minds, and the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Don't overly worry about hurting his feelings. Worry about saving the marriage, and building trust. If it turns out that you are an incorrigible freak, don't hide it. Tell him. Odds are he will be turned on by it(and your honesty), and will, in most cases, cause him to, at least, try to step up to the plate. Be honest. Be fearless......and if none of that works, invite me over, and we'll show him up close and personal, how you like to be ******. My bill is in the mail. You're welcome.

You'd been married for 4 years to a guy you loved and who was your world but thought it was a good idea to stay with a man you'd never met in person, only talked with on the phone and online for 6 weeks, and now YOU'RE devastated?

What is wrong with people?

Dear BrokenHearted Girl, I feel your pain and can understand. How long have you and your husband been separated? And have you talked of why you were emailing this guy and how or what attracted you to him? Your husband is angry but he has to understand that there was something in your relationship that he either didn't do or say. I am not saying that you have no fault just that maybe there could've been something he could've done to keep you from even wanting to be on that site in the first place. It's going to be hard and if you guys can talk it out.. Go to a counselor .. Let there be a mediator. You both just may find what was missing in the first place.

I'd drop you like a hot potato. There are plenty of good, loyal, attractive women out there, so why should he put up with your nonsense? My recommendation: get divorced and stay single in perpetuity. Cheaters always do what they do: cheat.

i cheated on my husband and i am suffering for it three yrs later like i just cheated yesterday. i really dont have any advice im actually seeking advice. my husband believe since he still in a relationship with me he doesnt have to do anything not even forgive. its all on me because i cheated . i hear comment daily like when u were with the other guy this an that. Im getting out of my marriage because of it i cant take it any longer. So i guess i do have advice if he doesnt forgive u dont hurt yourself like i did for three yrs ask god to forgive you an to help u to forgive yourself .

Sometimes it takes longer than 3 years to recover. This was your decision to step out of the marriage. I agree that both parties need to want to fix the marriage. I don't know what you have done since the your affair but there is a lot of reassurance that needs to be done on your part to make sure he knows daily that you are sorry and regret what you have done. This is what I am missing from my wife she thinks a cheap sorry is all it takes. I'm 8 months out and still question my decision to stay daily. Actions speak loader than words, take a long look at your actions and make sure they line up with what you are saying. If they don't this is probably why he is unable to get passed this. Best of luck.

thank you, this response assists me as well as that is what my husband is saying, that i wronged him and i need to show remorse and do the apologizing and begging for as long as it takes and i have been refusing to do that

Hi, my situation is pretty much similar to yours, its been one year and a half since it happened , but it feels to him like it happened yesterday. Made a mistake, I know that now, I've learnt from it , and I would give anything for him to forgive me, but its really hard for him. We still love eachother and im decided to fight for him, but its really hard when, every day your reminded about it... I understand his pain and hurt, I took wrong decisions, been selfish, but im truly repenting and i'd give anything to turn back time, but I can't. I can only pray one day he'll be able to forgive me.

that's my fear, i fear that i will now spend the rest of my life paying for what i did. i have recently been caught having an emotional affair (although husband does not believe me when i tell him we had not had sex). i fear that the situation at home for the rest of my life will actually be worse than what drove me to find comfort in another man. these thoughts and fears are causing me to harden my heart and fail to show remorse. another reason for that is that i don't believe that he'll forgive me, i am convinced that he will divorce me or if he doesn't i will live the rest of my life in hell and i then refuse to draw myself closer to him in fear of a severe heartache when he divorces me....

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Sometimes when you make the decision to cheat, there is no coming back from it. It's a selfish decision made by one person that usualy affects alot more than just them.

Who cares about you...you did what you wanted when you did so now its your husbands turn..maybe he finally met a woman who appreciates him.

You made your bed now lie in it if my woman left me for 2days i woud go to

So the typical story I see from married women on this site is that the husband at home completely ignores his wife and gives her zero attention and affection. And often the marriage is sexless. After this dull and stagnant marriage continues for a long time, the wife eventually meets another man who is a lot more charming and affectionate than her husband. So the wife eventually has an affair because the other man makes her feel whole and like a woman again because he gives her attention and good sex (which her husband gives her zero of both). Something is always missing in the wife's marriage, and this story (or close variations of it) occur over and over again. I don't blame a woman who married such a lousy man.<br />
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But you didn't answer these questions: Why did you go to that website in the first place? Why did you continue to talk to the other man? Why did you actually go to his house FOR TWO DAYS? And most importantly what is missing in your marriage?

have you and your husband tried marriage counseling? it has helped my husband and me through a lot of things...I cheated only last night & with the help of our therapist, we are going to work on this as well. take care of yourself, we all make mistakes.

good comment jh24

Hurting yourself is never the answer. However, your decision is one that you will effect you for a long time. Try to make peace with your husband and yourself.

I agree with June. I too had an affair...an emotional one. I can relate to the feelings that lead to wanting to have an affair. Forgive yourself. You are human. You found something outside your marriage. No one is exempt... You will heal.

I'm not exactly someone who can give you the right advice or anything but please, don't hurt yourself.<br />
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I can only imagine how painful things have been for you. You thought what you did couldn't have caused something as big as this. I can empathize with the regret you're feeling now. It really hurt to see someone we care about get hurt by us. That is something I learned the hard way.<br />
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You need to try and solve this problem with your husband and I can only say, again , please don't hurt yourself. When you're able to solve the problem, who knows how many happy years are ahead of you and your husband? If you harm yourself, you'll never know.

After being in relationship with a guy for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr, Aduwawa and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: (aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com) you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR.