I have been married for 15 years and like most people on these boards I had many issues with my wife. I was angry so many times with how she would "nag" me about my mother and my situation with my fathers illness (he had cancer and passed away a year ago) but what I learned in all this time was that communication was the key to a happy marriage. With the help of a counselor we overcame our differences. Sure, it wasn't easy and many times I went on my own to the sessions but as she saw a new "John" transform before her eyes, she realized that she needed to go to counseling as well. Please understand that I had chances to cheat and be unfaithful but I fought the urge because I knew that I wasn't that kind of person. I could leave her when I wanted to leave her if that was what I had to do. There was no rush, if the "other" person loved me enough then she could wait for the time I was single. So I kept going to my sessions, kept showing her the new "John" and in the end we have been married happily for 15 years. Please don't discard your marriages, please dont hurt the ones you love. If at one time you loved your husband or your wife it can be rekindled. It just takes determination and hard work sometimes but in the end its worth it. Please believe me.