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TOP 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat

10. The relationship isn't THAT serious.

In the beginning, you may find yourself in a brand new relationship, you're just dating but you really like the guy but you aren't quite sure if you want to be exclusive, men, you better not take too long to figure it out and seal the deal. While you're out there dating or talking to a couple of other girls to make sure she's the right one for you, she could be doing the same thing! Unfortunately for you, women get hit on almost everyday, it could just be for sex or whatever the circumstance, but we get attention out there no matter what we look like-there is always someone who is willing to get in our pants. Fortunately, we have been turning men down since the beginning of time, so unlike you, the predator, we are the type of prey that can say NO and walk away. When you think you are not quite ready to settle down as you go from one woman to the next, you are really wasting time on the girls you don't really like instead of investing time in the one you really want. If you don't seal the deal while she's really into you, you just might blow it, and she knows it!

9. They are bored in the relationship. When women get bored with their man they may seek comfort in the arms of a stranger or an old familiar flame. They get bored when the sparks no longer fly, they are stuck in a routine at home or in the relationship, and if their man isn't paying attention to them or they aren't having anymore fun together. Women need romance, dancing, dinners, spontaneous getaways, anything that will keep them guessing and make them feel special. The longer you leave gaps in between the romance, some other guy may be fillin gin for you. When the man she loves is spending too much time and attention on himself or his other interests, it is a complete turn-off for women because we want to be the center of his world, and when we aren't, we know that someone else will place us on a peddle stool. You've seen the chick flicks guys, how much more do we need to spell it out for you?!

8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship. Most women want a place to call home, especially a house, they want a marriage or some type of commitment, and eventually, they want to start a family. If they have been in a long term relationship and nothing seems to be materializing from it, they will consider straying if they haven't already. Women need to know their place in your life, we want to know that you are in it to give them that happily ever after, and if you don't step it up, then you need to proceed with caution. It isn't about sex, it's about being with a man that is ready to GROW UP and take the relationship to the next level. No matter what we say, we need the ring, the piece of paper, the contract, the whole sha-bang! We don't want to be your baby mama, but if that's what it takes to get you to commit, then some women will take that route and make you miserable for the rest of your life, all because... you didn't give her want she wants or needs in the relationship. Remember guys, there will always be someone else out there that will promise her the world if you aren't already giving it to her.

7. When he has too much baggage. Psycho ex girlfriends, baby mama drama, ex-wives with too much control, a meddling mother, over-protective siblings, bratty kids and friends that don't know when to go home, will take their toll on a woman. There is nothing more unattractive then a man that has too much baggage. Women will begin to take a look at their options out there no matter how nice or great of a guy her man is. A man can spoil her rotten, treat her with love and respect, but if his mama always has something to say, if his parents drop by unannounced, or are rude when her man isn't around, she will begin to resent the number one woman in your life, her arch-enemy... Yo' MAMA! If your ex, baby mama, or ex-wife causes too many problems in your relationship, you better do whatever you can to keep her because that is some bull-stuff that she will only take for so long. What's worse is if you can't control your own kids, that is also a major turn off because she wants you to be the MAN, not the doormat! When your friends come over too much or stay too long, you're not doing couples activities and you're all just sitting around playing video games, that will make you all look like a high school boy instead of the man she knows you can be. If you seem to be fighting about other people in your lives, that is definitely a red flag that she is not happy, so schedule time with your friends or family and let her go do whatever she likes to do then meet up latter. Whatever you do, don't keep repeating the same thing over and over when she tells you she doesn't like something (or someone) take care of the problem like a man, don't keep irritating her. When you really love someone, you will make the simple effort to make little changes for the benefit of the relationship; its all about compromise. If a man has too much baggage, there will be a drama free man out there just waiting for a chance to be with her, especially if she isn't carrying much baggage of her own.

6. They won't leave something for nothing. When you're just not getting along and you seem to be fighting a lot, fellas beware! Most women won't have a clean break because we need to "get under someone new, to get over someone old." That's right, this is something even our mothers and grandmothers know now days! That is why we always tend to have a "rebound guy," you know, the guy after the serious long-term relationship, before the string of one night stands and mini-relationships that will eventually lead to the new and improved relationship with someone better then you. Don't be mistaken, women are a lot more slick then we have been given credit for, and you won't even see it coming. By the time you're ready to "work things out" she may be on to bigger and better things, so if you know you love her and want to be with her, you better fix the problems before you get replaced. We think about our feelings and emotions a lot before we stray or start looking for the rebound guy, by the time we act on it, we have made up our minds and moved on. All you need to know is that the plan was well thought out before it was executed.

5. Ok, sometimes it is about the SEX. If a girl is having trouble climaxing, no matter how great of a guy you are, or if you have a mortgage, lease or kids together, she just might stray, depending on how bad it is and how much she really loves you. You could be rich, offer her everything under the sun, but if you can't deliver the kind of lovin' she needs, you're headed for trouble, because there is an easy remedy to cure that little problem. You will find that more and more women will have a Cha-cha, a guy they can call on whenever, wherever, to take care of their sexual appetite. Unlike a booty call, a Cha-cha knows you're in a relationship, he might be in one too, but he is readily awaiting her number appearing on the Caller ID of his cell phone. He is the guy that will give her presents AND *******, but he never calls her, she calls him. Men have their "old reliables" that they call when they are having a dry spell, women do too, but the Cha-cha is a special man that takes care of her wants and needs in different ways then a booty call and an old reliable. He is also there when you aren't acting right, he will console her after a fight, even if she doesn't mention a word about it, and he is there if she hasn't lined him up already, if you are having any of the issues from 6-10 in addition to the bad sex. Women have sexual and emotional needs that require your attention and if you aren't giving it to them, someone else will without a doubt!

4. When things start to go sour. Let's face it, women need a lot of attention, we have feelings and emotions that run deeper then any of the seven seas in the whole wide world. If you forget her birthday, an anniversary, or any other special day or if you skimp out on the other important days like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, New Years Eve or WHATEVER, she will feel unappreciated and that is a major red-light danger zone! If you are so caught up and busy doing whatever it is that you do, even if you are working a lot to pay bills and what not, at the very least... you better remember the days that count! The rule of thumb here is that you need to show your appreciation to her, show her how special she is and how much she means to you. Say thank you in little ways, because every woman will tell you, "it's the little things that count." The reason the little things count is because they all add up to one big thing, whether or not you appreciate her enough. If she baby's you when you're sick, packs your lunches, makes you dinner every night, if she cuts your hair, or makes you feel special by throwing you a surprise party, or gets you little thoughtful gifts here and there, no matter what the occasion, she is doing her best to make you feel special, loved and appreciated. We will never say it out loud, but we're expecting you to do it for us too. Picking up some flowers "just because" is a great way to show her, taking her out for a romantic dinner will also do the trick, getting her a card to say you're sorry, or giving her a little something because you love her, will always work wonders. If not, there is always some guy out there that will give her the works and charm those panties off by sweeping her off her feet.

3. If the relationship gets physical, in a bad way. Don't think that you could ever completely control a woman. If you try to use scare tactics, if you hit her, beat her up, or threaten her, she can and will stray at some point, it is just a matter of when. If you are verbally or emotionally abusive, we may play the victim card but every woman can be pushed to her breaking point until enough is enough. There are way more nice guys then evil ones out there and if you didn't know this already, we have been trained to await our night in shining armor, thanks to Disney. You can beat us to the ground and we will pick ourselves up because even though we love you and you hurt us in anyway, there is always another guy waiting to save that damsel in distress. We all know how much women talk, we talk about everyone and everything, so if she's with friends or at work spilling her guts out to someone else, anywhere else, the other women will be more then willing to set her up with someone great that they know, and most guys would love to play the part of the hero.

2. When she doesn't come first in your life. If you put other people before her then she will eventually stray and find herself in bed with a guy that will put her first. A woman has to feel like she is your number one priority outside of your real responsibilities like work or school, since women can be considered your partner, she needs to be treated as such, and more. When you're spending more time or money on your Mom, or anyone else other then her, you will have some problems. If you spend too much time at work and not enough time on her, there will be a big fight around the corner. I know it sounds selfish, but that is just the way we are. Think about it, when a man has a little girl, he is over protective of her, he spoils her, and she is his princess forever. When Dad is around, she is on her best behavior because she knows that if she plays her cards right, she can get whatever she wants from him... Mom on the other hand, is different. Mothers and daughters have a different relationship, they teach us all the domestic knowledge we need to be a wife and mother, cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, etc. Usually, the father will discipline, the kids, but he is always easier on his little girl then on his boys. There are Daddy's girls, and Mama's boys, there is a method to that madness. You see, mothers make it difficult for any woman to measure up because most guys want a girl kind of like his mom, in a way, and women want a strong, providing, generous man, like her daddy. Women just want a guy to make her feel like a princess, so if you've got other things on that peddle stool, you better make room for her because if she isn't your number one, she will belong to someone else in no time. It's not just about people either, it is also habits and addicitions, like drugs or video games, if you spend more time on the Playstation III or getting high, she will find a more mature man that will place that crown on her head and slip on that glass slipper.

1. Whatever you can do, we can do it better. If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don't think you are in the clear just because she forgave you, you better watch how she interacts with your brother, your cousins, your best friends, co- workers, and anyone with a penis. She will go for the jugular fellas, and I am not playing! If you break her heart and she gives you a second chance, she is probably going to start plotting the biggest, heart-breaking performance of her life. Just when you think it's all water under the bridge, you will find your heart ripped out, stomped on and spit on, under that bridge. Every woman handles it differently, she will either go for someone close to you, or she will slowly but surely, be with someone else behind your back, whether you find out about it or not is up to her. She may take you back, all the while knowing that she has slept with someone else, because in the back of her mind, "what you don't know won't hurt." Trust me fellas, she will smile in your face and act like everything is normal, but behind that grin lies the remnants of a broken heart plotting away vengeance. You see, it is so much easier for a woman to cheat, all we have to do is say "yes". Men love the thrill of the chase, they are natural predators, and once they have a piece of the pie, they are done with it because the thrill of the chase is over. If they get caught it's because they weren't doing it right, they got sloppy, and weren't paying attention. Women on the other hand, are very detail oriented, if she gets caught, she probably wanted to. Women will sleep with a guy even if he has a significant other, we are competitive that way. If the girl you cheated on knew about your woman, she was in it for the competition, you really mean nothing to her; sorry guys. Women always think they are better then other women, even sisters are rivals, but you are the fool that gets caught in the middle. If you don't end up with one of the two, you will end up alone, because a woman doesn't really want the guy that cheats on his chick with her because he will probably do it to her too. The woman who got cheated on will either take you back and get you back to even the score, or she will not have anything to do with you. It's all a game, and most of the time... it's the men that play the fools.

I know this all sounds horrible, and you probably think that women aren't like that, but if you really believe that then you are naive. Women are not nice when you hurt them or don't treat them the way they deserve to be treated. They will strike when you least expect it, she will hurt you in away you never thought possible, and if she did it all because of some thing you did or failed to do, she will do it without a single regret. A woman scorned will do the impossible and the unbelievable; you will not be prepared for the atomic bomb she will drop on you. It could be days, weeks, months, years, but she knows she is in control and she will take her time to get you back. Let's go back to the beginning, remember how Eve convinced Adam to eat that apple? Well, that's the kind of power we have over men. Don't think for a moment, that you are special, men are disposable, sad but true. Anything you won't do for us, someone else will be more then willing to step up and take care of us, and that's the guy that gets the trophy wife. The self-absorbed, naive man, is still a boy to us, and what we really want, is a MAN. A woman will love you whole heartedly if you play your cards right, but if you don't, she will call your bluff and walk away with the pot, take your pride with her, and leave you all alone to figure out how the heck she pulled it off.

 

VegaLove VegaLove 31-35, F 40 Responses Dec 9, 2008

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i find it very sad that people in a 'relationship' aren't 'adult' enough to confront their problems, rather than cheating behind closed doors. maybe cuz it's taboo to actually talk about these things in the open? i think it would solve alot of issues rather than playing the 'game'...

and for the women that cheat, don't get all on your high horse if he does the same. karma's a *****!

Yikes!! #3. I didn't really even know that many woman were physically or verbally abused. All the other stuff on the list makes sense. However, # 3 seems like the woman should be gone the first time it happens. Uhhh

these sound like excuses more than reasons.........

this is kinda harsh but.... It's so true. Women ARE like this. Men would kinda do well to pay heed to this. The thanks to Disney bit gave me a little laugh. The one thing - men very often underestimate us.

*nods* Pretty much. In my case it is a matter of always coming behind volunteering, work, entertaining our son, playing computer games, and watching Star Trek. And I'm a great wife--I do all the wifely things from fantastic blow jobs to fixing his lunch to take to work every day.

Cheating is just a way to get mine when he won't bother to give it to me.

I understand that so well.

Same old... common factor in all reasons was - the relationship - and somehow it's the man's fault. What about women that are habitual to have sex with anything with a penis? What about women who are into weird fetishes? What about women who have sex to get a raise, or a job?

It doesn't really matter who is at fault. It's just the way the female brain seems to work.

Some good points were made in this list and some of them certainly ring true for me- especially the ones about boredom & apathy and having sexual needs which go unmet for years on end. i am completely torn up over that one (usually it's a husband who gripes about that one but believe me, wives can have big sexual appetites too, paired with a husband who seems barely interested in sex! it's heartbreaking)

PS- but can someone please fill the author in that the word is 'pedestal', and not 'peddle stool'?? LOL. What on earth...

We really need to legalize prostitution. It would make so many things more simple.

Reads like this just re-enforce my decision to stay single! Lol. If youre not superman 24/7 youre at risk of getting effd over. No thanx!!

Yeah. I think you may be rihht

The most important thing in a relationship is trust and it is honesty which leads to it. You should be able to tell your partner everything, even if he may be initially upset. But if you find yourself lying about even the smallest thing then trust is going to fly out of the window quickly.
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How about when she marries to young and later met a man that understands her, her desires and needs better than anyone ever has. A man that can bring me to ectasy with a touch. Add that to the list

thats the truth

I know many a man who needs to read this daily. Thank you for giving them some very wise and deep insight into the mind and hearts of women.

are these reasons you have cheated?

you know... the venom in above post... seems related to your comment.. it's like that aha moment of connecting the dots! :)

Lol

Ya know, instead of cheating, one could say, "She's gonna leave you if...". My wife would not be the one to cheat, but she would be the one to show me the door.

Excellent break down. I can certainly relate to a few of these..

Gee idk,, but my #1 reason why is because women today have learned ,,and all embrace, being *****. To Joe it never has been a 'positive' type trait that 90% of men are total *****,,,Indeed,,, I do miss girls who know how to spell the word 'no'.

Extremely 'old school' for sure,, I know.

After reading this, it seams like it is all about just you. there are two people in a relationship, both should give a 100% to each other. After reading your info/story, it is a good read, but it discourages a man from even wanting to bother with being in a relationship or making a commitment to a woman. Sad?

My wife left me four months ago. I gave her everything, worked long hours, was loyal, and loved her with all my heart, and made her know that everyday. Then one day, she said I don't love you anymore. So sometimes guys, being married for 20 years, and doing all the right things, don't mean ****. When a women is done she is done. Or is she? So watch out, because your women can still be holding on to you until the new guy can defiently gives her what she wants. Life experience that I don't want.

women wow how true you are, but we men know as we get older we get better looking and you women well you know the best time are in your youth and then it's over, who want a single ageing woman with kids. there is a reson why a woman is middle aged single with kids. and nine time out of ten it's bad, so why will waist the time.

i get hit on all the time be by middle aged women that think your still hot, with that saggy ***, dry hair and three kids at home.

but when we are young we pay for it with all the heart brake after heart brake we under go. but boys out there under stant there are bad women and good ones too, that is just how the world works. just do your time in the heart brake hotel and grow the thick your going to need. because love does not come when your young and if it do'es it will not last long, and if it does your ones of the lucky ones.

All those reasons r valid, but there r many more. In group therephy I met and learned that many MW embark on affairs and there is nothing, or very little, wrong with their marriages. There is a sence of entitlement that some modern MW have. She wants to experience love, lust, passion, and the excitement and allure that comes along with an affair. There a dozens of reasons why MW have affairs and some of them r as simple as "because they feel like it'

Haha i like your way of thinking ;)

This is way more spot on than I expected it to be.

2 and 1 both.

Turns out my ex-wife was seeing two men at the same time both of whom she knew from high school and neither aware of the other.When i eventually finally found out i simply left everything behind,got a divorce and was so relieved she hadn't given me an std or hiv.And so it goes :))

You sound like a wise man, dump her ***. Once a cheat always a cheat. You did the right thing by getting a divorce first and then finding a real good women. There is good and bad and all types.

Yes, you're SO right about once a cheat always a cheat and i believe as you do that there are indeed good women out there and all types, good and bad. Thankyou for your comments.

Funny thing about all this is the fact that my wife cheated on me and I forgave her immediately and I was devastated and depressed for about 4-5 months. She threatened divorce and threatened to move out. It's been 8 months since she revealed the infidelity and have not seen any divorce papers and she still lives with me. I could rant about this for hours but back to the funny part, is that if she was to cheat or divorce me or move out now, I would be fine, so if she plans on trying to rip my heart out again, she's up for a rude awakening. Oh and BTW I have been totally loyal to her and still love her. So vindictive ladies need to wake up because there are strong minded men out here as well.

Funny thing about all this is the fact that my wife cheated on me and I forgave her immediately and I was devastated and depressed for about 4-5 months. She threatened divorce and threatened to move out. It's been 8 months since she revealed the infidelity and have not seen any divorce papers and she still lives with me. I could rant about this for hours but back to the funny part, is that if she was to cheat or divorce me or move out now, I would be fine, so if she plans on trying to rip my heart out again, she's up for a rude awakening. Oh and BTW I have been totally loyal to her and still love her. So vindictive ladies need to wake up because there are strong minded men out here as well.

Number 1 really applies to me at the moment. I was cheated on 3 times by my boyfriend. We have been together 10 years and he did the cheating about a year or 2 after we got together. I was and always have been head over heels with him.. But this devastated me. I think this would explain my feelings of wanting to cheat or hurt him in some way even tho i still love him. I feel guilty about my thoughts but at the same time i do not. Anyways, very insightful. +1

The reality is A REAL MAN knows THAT females cant ever BE EVEN REMOTELY trusted... and he never will OWN ONE as in marriage, but merely RENT ONE.... whether its a ONE NITE STAND or a PROSTITUTE to get his SEXUAL needs met IN REAL. The myfreecams and social sites give a male virtually all that he needs or desires, except for the occasionally social event when he needs a show piece, a BARBIE DOLL on his arm. With 1 in 4 women having some sort of STD to transmit men are content with the VISUAL STIMULI today and the average looking local gurl next door ***** for a BJ and a pizza to share over beers and TIVO. So thanks for all the over winded over inflated vanity and ego RAMBLINGS LOL that merely SHOWS YOU OFF AS THE TYPICAL BIMBO **** in the world today. ................Dad raised me well; BUY A HOUSE; BUY A CAR; BUY A BOAT; BUT ONLY RENT A WOMEN !!

very good advice.. but it seems that marriage is a dying thing which is a sad thing.. most men might say hallelujah!!.. but not me.. although I'm still young and have never had a date i still think it's sad.. though my feeling is a man isn't fully ready till he is about 30.. but i may be completely wrong! but that's just what feel one shouldn't rush in to relationship just cause life is short.. there many kinds of love and some may never find a romantic love life straight or.. gay.. but may have a fantastic friendship.. and no! i don't believe that only a guy can be guys best friend etc.. we are so.. closed minded these days.. this system has.. this media has badly! taught us that romance is the only way to a happy life.. but anyway that's my feeling and please forgive my lack of grammar..



oh!.. and last statement I'm not immune to this system by any means but i try..

insightful, but I would cite an "I agree because" as well as a "I disagree because" to nearly each portion. But that's just my two cents, to each their own.



"Love is our response to our highest values. Love is self-enjoyment. The noblest love is born out of admiration of another's values." and to me, that is enough.