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Cheating Is Cool

Yeah cheating is so cool. My wife cheated on me for two years she only just came out and told me. She wanted to be with someone else and wanted me out of the way. My children are now devastated I see them maybe once a fortnight at best. They hate living with her because she is mean nasty and shouts at them. She believes they respect her but they are scared of her, which will cause issues for them when they get bigger. We now have horrible interactions she blames me for her cheating I refuse to call her by her name to me she is just a slightly and I use that when I speak to her. She has no respect for me and I none for her now. I did truly love her and I was heartbroken and so we're the kids. Anyone who strays outside of a marriage male or female is committing get a terrible moral crime. Now the only do they destroy their own chances of living a truly happy and fulfilled life they also take away that opportunity format their children and their spouse. The cheating spouse should have the decency to leave the marriage and the children, they should not haven't automatic right to a family life. The children should reside withheld non cheating spouse as they have demonstrated that they are more committed. Cheating spouses should be villified in the same way we treat others who destroy families. Modern society has become so used to spouses who cheat and marriage breakdowns that we accept it as being normal. The temptation to cheat is immense it would seem as though it is actually the better thing to do. Really though the people who seem the happiest are not the ones who look for ways to be happier but the ones who stick with what they already have and learn to love and live with their spouses. People who have multiple partners generally tend to be lonely. Sure they may have a partner but really they are on their own. It's just a callous temptation to believe that cheating is better, it destroys the cheaters life and the families they belong to, and yes if you are married and have kids you belong to a family. You life is n
ot your own because the actions and the decisions you take effect others.
Tobyboyce Tobyboyce 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 13, 2013

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Wow, that's some painful sh*t you're going through. Keep your kids safe and you'll get through this.

So true

Curious. Had your wife made any efforts to discuss with you beforehand what she felt was missing from your union? Did she suggest marriage counseling or tell you of what specific things you may or may not be doing to cause her alienation? This is really important, because if she did confront you, and you did not listen or take her seriously, then your inattentiveness was at your own peril. If she said nothing but then did as she pleased that is quite another story.

Been a while but does my post mention any sort of confrontation or marriage counselling because I came see it also are you seriously suggesting that in some circumstances cheating on a partner is okay because that to me seems to be quote a self centred viewpoint. Please reply with authenticity, support, and respect

All I am saying is that it takes mutual cooperation, communication, and effort to sustain a marriage. Mutual means that both parties make time for each other and listen to each other. If that sort of thing is missing from one or either party, the marriage is likely doomed.

Infidelity is only a symptom that something deeper is wrong with the marriage, more often than not.

Thanks for sharing your story, it gives me strength to hear someone's else view on the subject that is the same as mine. I just found out that my husband cheated on me last year around this time, and I am so devastated by it. If I were on my own, I would be gone in a second but we have three kids, all under the age of 6. they all love him and would be completely destroyed if the family broke up. He wants to stay together but I don't think I can have any self respect left if I stay with him. And just like you said i don't think he should have the right to be a part our family anymore since he really didn't respect it in the first place. Thanks again for sharing your point of veiw.

Feel better now?