I have been married to a wonderful man for nearly 15 years now. He is my best friend in the world but it has been months since we have had sex. He never had what you could call a high libido, but now I'm lucky if we have sex 4 times a year. My husband is 14 years older than I am. I have always had a high libido and never seem to be satisfied. The actual sex act itself was incredible, but that would only make me want it more. Now that his sex drive has decreased even more and he has grown older the few times a year when we do have sex it is short and unsatisfying to me. I finally couldn't take the desperation, so I don't ask for it any more. Otherwise, I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster, thinking I might get it and not. Wanting it and being let down. My husband is a very handsome man and I am still very attracted to him. He says that he still finds me attractive, but it is hard for me to believe him when he never initiates sex. We have talked about this many times and I have even stopped discussing for a while thinking that the subject itself was nagging him. I can't and won't imagine my life without him. Why is it that great love and great sex seem to be mutually exclusive in life. We are both religious people and when I married him I knew we were meant to be together. How do I deal with this.