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It's a Tough Decision

 Having sex all alone isn't the ideal that I sought when we got married.  But, I love her and don't want to hurt her by being unfaithful.

dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Dec 26, 2008

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When we do make love she's multi-orgasmic and really enjoys it. She always asks how come we don't do this more often but we don't. It's not from my lack of ability to please nor from my asking.

I'm sorry, my gentleman friend...what does she do when you "make love" to her? Or is even lovemaking off her radar? If so, I ache for you.

How do you break the heart of the person that loves you? They are just different and that's not all their fault. She grew up in a home where feelings were deep but not expressed. She is satisfied by a touch, a simple kiss and cuddling at night. I need much more than that. My blood runs hot and I've had a life of sexual experience, which is different from her 30 year marriage to her ex. He was a real piece of work! He demanded and she gave sex, which may color her readiness to be sexual with me. I've given her love and safety rather than treating her like a thing.

You are a good man. :) I do not know the reason for the lack of intimacy, but admire your love for her.<br />
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I do have empathy for the men and woman being denied through emotional cruelty who think of going extramarital, ideally they should tell their spouse they've had enough of being abused first.