Depression And And Thoughts Of Suicide

I read a lot in the q&a and in posted stories about depression and thoughts of suicide studies have shown that one of the best cures for is to simply just get laid aka:sex. That's right. You read that correctly. Sex is a real cure for depression and thoughts of suicide, and what's more, it can help you relieve the symptoms of both.
For those of you that are thinking right this moment that I would but no one would want to have sex with me you are absolutely wrong. The one you think you want may not want to be with you but what about the one across the room trying to catch your eye. They want you and want you bad.
The best part about having sex is that you've already got all the equipment you'll need, and maintenance of that equipment means using it on a regular basis. Additional point until you have beaten your depression by getting laid is that you also need to take your medicine, if you want to get better. You've heard this advice all your life you've told them pretty much the same thing. Now it's your turn..
Sometimes you just have to force yourself to do something, even if, at that particular moment, it's not all that appealing. When you're depressed, the thought of engaging in sex seems like more trouble than it's worth, and your libido isn't operating at maximum strength, either. Does that mean sex is out of the question? Doesn't have to be. Not every act of intimacy needs to end in intercourse. Consider your options — when it comes to romance, there are quite a few.
Human touch is a great healer. Massage is a great stress reducer, and it's something you and your partner can do for each other. Foot rubs, back rubs, neck and shoulder rubs — pick one or all and relax. You may decide to talk or not, but you'll find that the topics that come to mind, while you're getting or giving a massage, are of a pleasant nature. With that comes a sense of increased well-being. And who knows what this might lead to? It's definitely worth the effort.
Researchers have been busy studying the beneficial effects of sex and are glad to report that they've found them. Forbes online reported on a longitudinal study of about 1,000 middle-aged men, conducted by Queens University in Belfast. The research findings were published in the British Medical Journal in 1997. Other studies continued this research and their results confirm the findings:
• After sex, your sense of smell improves. This is why you get hungry! A good meal will also help you deal with depression — and if you order take-out or delivery, you don't have to leave home.
• The risk of heart attack or stroke for men is cut in half for men who have sex three or more times per week.
• Sex is good exercise. You can burn 200 calories during sex. That equates to 15 minutes on a treadmill. Researchers found that your pulse rate rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150 — that's equivalent to an athlete going full out.
• What those scientists research is nothing short of amazing. Sex can help you control your weight. Getting that body in shape will help you work on improving that self-image. Those dedicated researchers determined that you can work off the equivalent of six Big Macs if you have sex three times a week for a year.
• For women, as they approach ******, levels of the hormone oxytocin increase up to five times their normal level. This triggers a release of endorphins, which act as your body's personal pain relievers.
• Getting older can mean less bladder control, and sex can help you with this embarrassing problem. Sex works the same muscles that control urine flow, so the more sex, the more you tone up! Do those Kegels!
Kegels, named for Dr. Arnold Kegel, a gynecologist who discovered them, are pelvic floor exercises that work to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles. To clarify here, we're talking about the pelvic floor, not floor exercises! The exercises involve alternately tightening and then releasing these muscles.
• When you're depressed, so is your immune system. According to a Wilkes University study, participants who engaged in sex once or twice a week had 30 percent higher levels of the antibody immunoglobulin A. That antibody is believed to give your immune system a boost.
• And finally, for the men, how about a healthier prostate? Forbes online reports on a study published by the British Journal of Urology International that found men in their twenties can reduce their chances of getting prostate cancer by *********** more than five times a week.
With no reported drawbacks and several obvious benefits, healthy sex can go a long way toward helping you deal with the symptoms of depression.
You've already read how walking the walk can help your body confront the more debilitating effects of depression, but there's still more you can do. Silence may be golden in some situations, but resolving difficulties is not one of those situations. Good relationships can weather all manner of storms, but you've both got to know which way the wind is blowing. If you're married, it comes down to the “for better or worse, in sickness and in health” aspects of the ceremony.
In all relationships, the ideal give-and-take on both parts is 50 percent. That's the ideal, and life is never ideal. There are good times and bad times, and often the bad things seem to come in clusters. It's as if the fates were toying with you to see just how much you can take.
So, if you've just had a root canal, are feeling boxed in by seasonal affective disorder (SAD), and can't remember the last time your partner said, “I love you,” realize that all this is temporary. Your mouth will heal, the sun will come out again, and if your partner still hasn't said those three little words, try saying them yourself. It might be your turn to carry the load.
It's easy to be with someone, when everything is fine — when you're feeling great, looking good, and enjoying what life has to offer. During the down times, however, it's not that much fun to be with someone who is trolling the bottom, looking for a place to bed down among the bottom fish.
At these times, it helps to repeat the mantra mentioned earlier, “This too, shall pass.” And it's highly probable that at some point, you'll be the one needing the care and attention. During this time of high stress, when your partner is suffering from depression, take some time to care for yourself. It can be draining to be the 80 in an 80/20 relationship.
Humans are all sexual beings, but sexuality is a complex concept. People are genetically programmed, biologically equipped, mentally conditioned, and emotionally engaged to present ourselves to the best advantage for one purpose — to ensure the continuation of the species. It's a heavy responsibility, but the performance of the duty can be among the most pleasurable experiences that life has to offer.
When physical or mental illness impacts the ability to participate in sex, it's no wonder people become irritable. As you've read, however, getting back on track mentally means using your body the way nature intended. While the advice, “use it or lose it” may not have been coined to deal with depression, it certainly works here and has the added benefit of keeping your relationship healthy.
People do well when they are with others who share their interests and passions. People do even better when they find partners who will accept them as they are and for who they are. Some of the happiest couples will never win any kind of beauty contest. You've got to go back to those old, timeworn and time-tested adages: “Beauty is only skin deep.” It's what's inside that matters. And if that inside is compassionate and understanding of a partner who is going through some tough times, that's the relationship that will stand the test of time.
Looking for a 50/50 relationship? You'll look a long time — perhaps forever. Look instead for one in which the two of you can take turns carrying the load. Maybe that will look like 60/40 or 70/30, but how do you measure love? And the truth of it is, if you're really in love, you don't keep score.
So how do you rescue your sex life now that your medicine is starting to work? First make sure that your medication isn't affecting your sex drive. The chances of sexual side effects with anti-depressants are pretty high. If it is talk to your doctor for a change in medication There are ones out there that do not kill your sex drive.

Revive your interest in non-sexual intimacy. Sex isn't just about the physical act but also about connecting on an emotional level. Start trying to be more physically affectionate. Partners love it when you come up behind then when they are for example doing dishes and you hug them from behind and kisses the back of their neck. Touch is the first sense that develops in a fetus and it continues to be important throughout your life. NON-SEXUAL TOUCHING IS GOOD FOR YOU and it makes you more receptive later for sex. We all need hugs and signs of affection if you want or need a hug Ask for it. People are not a mind readers and sometimes just needs a gentle reminder. And most important communicate with your lover. Better communication will lead to better sex. Talking will lead to trying some new things. Sex is actually fun again so rediscovered that the best sex organ in the body is the brain.

Don't be afraid to seek help outside the bedroom if reconnecting is hard for you. Sex therapists are trained to help you rediscover this part of your life. If your relationship has taken a beating you may need a little help to jumpstart this physical and emotional intimacy. Don't be afraid to ask for help. It may be weird to talk to an outsider about sex but the rewards will be worth it.
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Dec 14, 2012