How Have You Stayed Married So Long? That Is A Guestion I Get Asked A Lot

A few thoughts. I use to say it was because the first 21 years he was gone so much. Just kidding though. It takes a lot of work on both parts. We never went to sleep mad, always said goodnight with a kiss, and goodmorning with one as well. We learned each others weekness and strengths. We shared chores around home. I knew his job would cause him to have times he couldn't be here so I would pickup the slack. He did the same for me when my job got to that point. He knew every 9 weeks I would go from 8 hour days to 10 to 12. But that is what it took. We also took the time to let each other have time alone, everyone needs it from time to time. But one rule was always followed. 1 night a week was family night. We would talk and do things as a family, no body else. He still opens doors for me and makes me breakfast on the weekend, also holds my hand when we are out together.
I can't help him outside anymore but I make sure he has what he needs on hand and knows I'm here. He helps me more with the housework and understands when I get so mad because I'm limited as to how much I can do. He just says it ok doll, we'll get it done. Being able to read each other without a word is not easy to do but we can do it. He knows when I'm wore out and hurting and I know when he isn't right. He jokes more than I do but I still listen to him. We have continued to grow together because we are always going throuh changes as we get older. But the best advice I can give anyone would be to learn to talk. Don't hold things in, change what you can but accept what you can't. No human is perfect including you. So don't look for him or her. Say I love you don't think they know it. Share a hug and a kiss everyday. Even if it is with a letter or email.