How To Conquer Fear Of Doing Anything That Frightens You

When I was younger, performing was a frightening experience, but I discovered a way to conquer stage fright.

Before I went onstage, my adrenalin was pumping through my body, and I was nervous as hell.

I kept telling myself, "CALM DOWN." But it didn't work...the more I tried to calm down the more nervous I got!

Instead, I suddenly tried the OPPOSITE.

I started jumping up and down, doing boxing, jogging, doing whatever I had to, to get my mind up to the level of my body.

By moving my body, my mind followed...

Once my body and mind BOTH were at that same high level and they matched, I felt that I was ready. I felt GREAT!

Why does this work? Because the body and mind need to be in sync for optimal function. Ask any athlete.


It's very simple, but where in your life can you try this?

Ever get nervous before calling someone? business or personal.

Before an important meeting/presentation?

where else can this be helpful?


ps- If you're a bit out of breath, you can always say to whomever you are speaking with, (even on the phone)

" I just got finished excersizing, and It feels great "


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20 Responses Feb 11, 2010

yeap!! your idea is great of diverting mind other than to take tension...........

cool, let me know how it goes.

This sounds like great advice - I'll try it.

You make me smile. thanks!

This is fantastic insight! I am grateful that you shared this, and I am going to print this as a reminder for myself to put this into practice. thing i should make clear is that you have to get your heart beating, and loosen up your body here...too much will make you sweat and exhaust you...too little wont work- you have to gauge how much to do.<br />
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Think of yourself as an athlete before a big how they jump around before playing...especially in football...see the New Orleans Saints before a game and how they jump around and yell...that's what I'm talking about (you dont have to yell)

tell the bull to jump on more china till he gets tired...:)

What a fantastic piece of advice. I will definitely be trying this one. It makes perfect sense, if you try to calm a bull in a china shop it will never work and the more you try, the worse it gets. Thankyou so much for this!

Interesting...thats great that your mom taught you that. <br />
Go with what works for you! :)<br />

This is a very interesting method. I wonder if it would work for me at this stage in my life. My mother taught me at very young age a form of self hypnosis to calm my mind. I've done it for so long it's second nature. If I started bouncing around and getting active my body would probably shut down. Being a nature lover, going jogging actually calms my mind down. But I like what you have shared.

please do CGK, and let me know how it goes.

cool idea, I think I will use this for social anxiety.

I LOVE THIS!!! I actually remember some of my best performances as times when I was forced to take a quick "jog" because I had forgotten something in a dressing room or car or ladies room (let's not be so big-headed). or after running to my X after getting last-minute instruction... I would need to suck on a sweet mint or Riccola because all the breathing would dry my throat a bit, but... THIS JUST MAKES SOOO MUCH SINCE!You've just helped me. Thanks for sharing (yeah... I know I'm geek'd)

yeah Sappy! :)

Interesting correlation to athletes. I never thought of that before. You can't conquer fear by avoiding the troublesome situation. The only way to beat it is by just doing it ... whatever, "IT" is.

cool guys...please report back your findings. <br />
Mtn, yes, when you kickbox I'm sure you jump around before the match right?<br />
Athletes do this non- athletes need to learn how by doing!

I will def give this a try!

Your story is very similar to my kickboxing matches. There is not getting around it, I just had to embrace the fear. <br />
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There is also another kind of fear and that is the fear of doing things like completing your dissertaion or applying for a job, etc. I think that takes a different approach but what it is I don't know.

I may have to try that the next time I get nervous about something. I'll let you know how it works for me. Thank you!

Beautiful, thank you! :)