To me anything that involves the emotional engery ment for your spouse is cheating. It becomes abuse when the one doing the cheating blames you for the bad choices and behaviors they have decided to participate in.
My husband more than once has become involved with other women on the internet. He calls it a game. They talke dirty to each other and then he strarts getting the women to send him nude photos of themselves.
He has a pattern. He doesn't think so but after 14 years of marriage I've learned when he is getting in over his head. The last time he had one of these "friends" he thought he was in love with her. After three weeks of talking to her on the internet. He didn't and still doesn't think he was cheating.
We hardley ever have sex and he ********** to **** more than he touches me. Yet, he says he loves me. I feel like he is just waiting for our daughter to get grown and then he can leave.
Nothing he does anymore surprises me. I'm just to the point to where I know there is nothing I can do to stop his destructive behavior.