Loney, Hurt And Confused

Just curious, why do husbands and wives lose interest in affection and lovemaking? I’m a professional white male, married for over 30 years, who has never once been physical with, or raised my voice in anger to my wife. I help her with the housework, children’s activities, and send her flowers on each anniversary, Mother’s Day, and on her birthday. I do this out of love, but is seems to be received as more of a ritualistic gesture anymore. I am at the point where I’m just tired of trying. There’s no intimacy (hugging,kissing,cuddling) between us, and certainly no sex. I don’t consider myself a sexual addict, but I do miss being inside a woman. As a lover, I simply refuse to allow my needs to come before those with whom I make love, and will do WHATEVER is necessary to help them achieve gratification. I simply don’t know what to do. I crave female attention and find myself looking at other couples with envy who are, as I used to be, bonded and affectionate. I have female friends whom I adore and respect, but don’t feel comfortable discussing my intimacies, or lack thereof with them. I would appreciate a female’s perspective on the matter.

PS: Divorced in 2011, feel as if the weight of the world is off of my shoulders.  Looking to the future with a renewed hope and optimism!!!
46-50, M
Aug 10, 2010