It's The Details That CountMy wife has now had three lovers since we have been married. All have been with my encouragement.
I have not seen her make love to any of her partners, although I have met two of them at social occasions.
The turn on for me come in part from the details my wife shares: About the size of their penis, how sex compares (usually better than with me). The feelings my wife experiences during the relationship - She was totally in love with one of her boyfriends to the point of considering going to live with him. This did not happen as, to my relief, he did not want that level of commitment and their affair fell apart after that.
But, more exciting for me, is the details I observe. Firstly, she has always stopped wearing her wedding rings whilst she was in a relationship. I know from other posts on the net, some of the guys say the opposite turns them on. However for me, it is the knowledge she puts her boyfriend above me, her husband that I found arousing. I have asked her why she reverts to wearing them again when her relationship has ended. Her view is she feels naked without them but does not feel right wearing them when dating.
One boyfriend did buy her jewellery. She wore a necklace, earrings and a bracelet from him all the time they were dating. I wish he had also brought her a dress ring which she could have worn on her wedding finger.
The other details that excite me are the clothes she wears. She becomes more sensual when dating. Above the knee dresses replace long skirts and slacks. Stockings become standard wear. Her panty hose discarded to the back of her drawer. Her underwear is defiantly bedroom not work attire. Watching her dress for dates becomes a must see. The image stays at the front of my mind whilst I am waiting for her to return.
On one occasion, she asked me to go shopping with her when she was buying items for a short break with her then current boyfriend. Rather than select items herself, she got me to choose the underwear she would wear whilst away. She then let me come with her to the sales counter to pay. Afterwards, she shooed me out of the shop so she could buy a suitable nightdress. Her boyfriend had given her vouchers for this. She would not show me this purchase until after her return from their break. My wife never wore it to bed with me. A shame as it defiantly screamed sex!