My Husband Is So Selfish

My husband just came home with a brand new, $23,000 truck, which he bought against my wishes. I am so angry with him. We had discussed this and had agreed to wait until I am finished with my bachelor's degree (May 2009).  I am in school full-time and raising our two kids (10 months and 7 years). I am unemployed, for the first time in my adult life, trying to finish what I started. We are living on his income alone. We do not even own our own home! This is what we should be working on buying, a home for our children! NOT a brand new truck that benefits him, and only him! To make matters worse, we CAN NOT afford the d*mn thing on his income alone... the kids can't fit into it.... and I'm driving around a small VW Jetta that I am forced to cram the kids into every day. The !@$hole didn't even think of us when he so selfishly made the purchase.

The worse part is that it ruins our goal of buying a home, at least for the next 5 years. How can we save money when we have none to save ? All I want is to finish my education, provide a stable home to my kids, and be happy. He is so selfish.

n2maynard n2maynard
26-30, F
6 Responses Nov 9, 2008

I feel your pain. My husband is very selfish as well. We have been married for 21 years (BY the grace of God - and my commitment to my vows), but for the last 19 or 20 we have had separate checking accounts. He did not like me using "our" money to buy things. It has been that way every since. We have 3 nearly grown children, and if wasn't for me they would be naked. That is only the tip of the iceberg. He is very self-centered, demanding, and very hateful. He really seems like a miserable person. Sometimes I envy people that are divorced.

I TOTALLY feel ya, girl.<br />
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but from the sound of it, him buying that truck is a minor/intermediate problem compared to what else is going on in your life with him...<br />
... And if that's the case, I'd seriously consider hairylady's suggestion.<br />
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Think it through, don't be hasty.<br />
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You're well educated, intelligent and experienced.. it won't be easy, but you'll have MUCH less problems on your own (plus you won't have to deal with him stressing you out anymore).<br />
Just make sure you have a support system handy.<br />
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My husband is equally selfish, except we have no money for him to spend. lol.<br />
However, he would if he could...I wish we were separated.

I would've freaking killed him. You know welfare really helps out single mothers. You know, just til' you can make it on your' own. Just a thought :)

Unfortunately, they won't take it back. And get this: I looked the truck up on and it turns out that the loser overpaid by about $4000! AND he traded his car (a large family car) in, for nothing as it turns out. He didn't even shop around! What a moron. I'm just glad he works out of town and I don't have to look at him.

Wow - your husband sucks. I would be pissed beyond belief if he did this. If it is in both or your names - I would make him take it back . . .

Your husband did a very selfish and stupid thing by purchasing this vehicle. Some men really do need to pull their heads out of their ***, muck, muck.