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Insanely Manipulative...


We'll just say "disturbed." I never cared for the word crazy. 


There was a gentleman in late 2011 that I started seeing almost immediately after ending a different arrangement with another man. 


At first, on the surface, he seemed like a sweet, deeply-caring person. He managed to gain my trust rather quickly. In hindsight, things became sexual rather quickly too. 


For the longest time, things were great!


I made it known that we were simply dating, that he wasn't my boyfriend, and that I still had every right to see other people if I so chose. Also, that I'd always be honest and tell him if I were seeing someone else as well. 


Someone from my past showed back up into my life. Someone who probably shouldn't have, but the chemistry was so strong that it wouldn't have been long before we started meeting up again. 


I mentioned it to the person that I was speaking to someone from my recent past. Someone that I'd spoken to him about. 

Around Christmas, the other guy suddenly breaks things off. 


At this point, I was terribly confused and asked him what was going on. 


Apparently he had gotten threatening emails from someone using a fake name. Someone claiming to "love" me and saying that "I think (my name here) , she's just confused right now." 


There were threats of dire consequences if he told me about the email. He was simply supposed to drop me and never say a word. 


Considering our history, he couldn't do that to me. He told me about the message. 


I confronted the other man about it. He says it wasn't him. He swears it to this day. Claims a family member of his did it. 


I don't really believe him. 


I haven't seen him since. 


Its just the idea that someone would sneak about and meddle in my life like that. 


I know it could have been worse. I know he could have threatened physical harm to either me or the other person. I'm glad it didn't come to that. 


...but I found the level of manipulation astounding. Things I'd confided...considering him a lover...used against me. Used against another I care for deeply, and can never see again after all of this. 
lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4, 2012

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your'll find a guy who'll treat you better..just have to wait and let it happen

But how would this man get his email address?<br />
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If a man drops you cos of this then he is not a person who will be strong for you and make you feel safe. He is a coward. You need a strong man who is in control of his life.<br />
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I'm glad I am single.<br />
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Best wishes sweetheart

Oh, I am single as well. Even was when all of this went down. I wasn't trying to be with either of them, but have slept with both of them. (Not during the same time.)

The arrangement was laid out pretty clearly....in telling him that I still planned to see other people as well. I enjoyed spending time with him until talk of "love" started happening. I'd only been meeting up with the guy once a week for a couple months. I knew for sure I wasn't in love with him, and probably wouldn't ever be.

The other man....the one who "dropped" me...was married. So. That is why that happened the way it did. He had an entire other life aside from his time with me, and would not have it ruined. I understood. Haven't spoken to him since.

Either way, its all resolved now.

Thank you for your comment. :)