He Forgot to Tell Me

My boyfriend has apparently decided to end our relationship.  He was someone that I knew well as a teenager- someone that I was good friends with and had a great affection for, even then.  Over the years, we lost contact, but he found me on the 'net last year and we started talking.  We decided that we both wanted a relationship, as we've both felt that "connection" since high school.  We've talked almost every single day since December (when we started "dating"), despite the fact that he currently lives 225 miles from here.  We've visited with one another as much as possible, as well.

Early last week, we had two serious discussions about our plans for the future.  He and I agreed that he would remain in his current location for now, continue working at his current job, save up money, and we'd visit when we could..until Fall, when he'd move here so that we could be together.   Things between us have been nearly perfect since the beginning.  We've had no disagreements, arguments or cross words. 

Suddenly, the day after that last serious conversation (which HE started, in order to discuss his ideas for a "plan"), he stopped communicating.  No messages, no phone calls- nothing.  This went on for a week.  I didn't know if something was wrong, if he was working overtime, if he was sick or what.  He went from one extreme to the other overnight...and for some unknown reason.  I didn't think anything of it, really, until the 3rd day- when he hadn't contacted me at all.  That was both unusual and worrisome.  (My guess is that he either scared himself with the serious talk, didn't think he could do the long distance thing any longer or decided that it was too big of a hurdle to try to surpass- that we'd never accomplish our "goals" as a couple.) 

Two days ago, he finally sent me a message, telling me that he didn't mean to hurt me, that he meant it every time he said that he loved me and that he still loves me.  (The typical stuff one says when ending a relationship.)  I'm still unsure of what happened.  Needless to say, I definitely did not "get the memo" and it hurts.  It really hurts.
RaraAvis RaraAvis
31-35, F
2 Responses May 8, 2007

It's his loss, Honey. It may not feel like that right now, but he has probably done you a favour, Hope the pain eases day by day..and you can move on stronger.

Didn't get the memo!! What a polite way of saying it, i will have to remember that one!! YUP, that memo is gone, but i saw that there is a 2nd part to your story, so i want to read it before i make my final comment .... in the meantime i think i will look for my missing memos ;)