And One Night He Just......Walked Out.....

The day I met my husband was the day I fell in love with him. We had a beautiful, exciting, outgoing relationship. We had moved in with each other after just a couple months. Had bought a house a year after that, started a successful business, and marriage followed 6 months later. We celebrated our 1st anniversary 3 months ago. Now I'm sitting in a quiet house alone. He walked out in the middle of a mild argument, to sleep on a friends couch for the night. It's been over a month and he still has not come home. I've recently found out I am menopausal. My mood swings are horrific and I have been struggling in silence. I told my husband before being diagnosed that I felt I had some sort of imbalance. But he thinks I'm using this as an excuse. Our marriage apart from this has been wonderful. He has also told me that he felt life couldn't get much better. So why is he not here then? I'm so upset I'm sick to my stomach. He says he loves me but I feel totally ignored. We have planned to have dates and he breaks them. I fell like he is leading me on. I'm left with all the responsibilities of the house, while he is out having fun and has left town 3 weekends in a row. He says to think. I'm so lost, I'm heart broken. I don't know how to make myself feel better.
2muchsaddness 2muchsaddness
4 Responses Feb 1, 2013

I hope everything works out for you. I know how it feels. Right now, take care of yourself. Go to counseling. He may be going through a midlife crisis of his own

so sorry for what you are going through.

If it helps u are not by yourself, my husband left in Jan after a 10 year marriage with no indication anything was wrong-just went to his sisters house and would not come home-told me and his son (another marriage,not even mine) that he needed to find himself-i begged him to come home, his 11 year son begged him to come home, I cried my eyes out, got angry and this week I'm gonna see an attorney-hey once he finds himself and sees he lost the best thing that ever happened to him-I will already be free and living the positive life that I deserve. U r not alone from used and angry.

There is hope, you two seem to be high communication-emotion type people. If he loves you, and if everything you just wrote is true, he'll be back; you're too rare of a person to walk out on for long.